What do you do when you disapprove of your child announcing a pregnancy?

Congratulations on your pregnancy and best wishes for the future.
Sad that your parents have such a strange attitude but that's their problem. Try not to let it bother you if possible.
Look to the future not the past.

Hi Jenpax - bless you - it is hard work & tiring but like you I adore my GD & she's what matters. I tire easily am 52 & diagnosed with Rheumatoid back in April, I think having been in pain since last October hasn't helped with my positive head, it's gradually coming back, but then another curve ball gets thrown & I worry myself stupid, I know I have to just take each day, my boys know I love them & I try not to interfere, it's their lives after all

Congratulations! - how very exiting. I wish I could turn the clock back and be expecting my first baby again! Just enjoy it all - it passes in a flash.

As for your parents' strange attitude - it will be their loss not having a close relationship with their grandchild; and their views are irrelevant - it is YOUR new family, YOUR baby, YOUR life.

Just concentrate on your own lovely family and enjoy. Ignore them!

At your age Erdos your parents shouldn't really be quibbling about anything you do, its your life & your choice, congrats.
Frustrations run high for me as to how young my son is & the fact its kids having kids. My granddaughter spends lots of time with us, had her every other weekend since she was a week old! That's when alarm bells rang for me that any mother would part with their baby for a night at a week old, though the mothers been absent for year now, that says it all - at least the new girlfriend is already a mum, that helps, am sure once baby arrives, my new grandchild, I will enjoy what I can do to help them

Poor you Nickyjo64 what a nightmare! My youngest child fell pregnant at 17 and I wasn't happy! I had hoped she would get a career and uni under her belt before babies also she wasn't in a secure relationship! She and my grandson have lived with me nearly all along (he is now 6 )she tried living in her own place for a couple of years but her health isn't good and after several trips to hospital and my small GS spending more and more time at my house (I was there anyway before work every day and stayed after work to help her til after he went to bed!) they decided to move back with me. It's tiring having a small child in the house again and to be honest I am co parenting as she relies very very heavily on me to do daily child care and school pick ups and lots of other things besides! But although I wasn't happy with the idea it has still proved a blessing he is a delightful affectionate little boy and I can't imagine life without him! As for daughter she managed to get herself on to a vet nurse course and is sorting herself out! My other two daughters now also have little ones and they are delightful fortunately they are both in more stable situations with degrees jobs husbands and own homes etc!

Congratulations, Erdosrenly. You seem to be in a very good place to have a baby and offer a loving home. People do not change as they get older, so just keep the contact with your family to what you can cope with. You will shortly be busy caring for your baby, enjoy every minute of the time, it passes so quickly. It is your parents who are the loosers with their attitude, they will miss so much joy if they continue to be so negative.

Congratulations Erdos. You sound as if you are in a good place in your life after an unhappy upbringing, and this baby will be an added joy. Honestly, I can't pretend to understand your parents' attitude. If your situation had been like that Nickyjo described, I could see why they might be concerned but you sound as if you are in a stable marriage, which should be the ideal place for a child to grow and thrive.

Try to ignore the attitude of your parents and chat about your pregnancy with those who care: Husband, in-laws and friends. Maybe they will come round after the baby is born and see how well cared for it is. Good luck with your pregnancy and birth. Make sure you look after yourself and avoid the stress your parents seem to put you under.

"the dysfunction is sending me mad, I cannot embrace this news with happiness, it's a disaster"
"what happened to having a child and actually giving a damn about that childs welfare before it's born"

Seems to be more or less my parents' view. They don't seem to see that their view of me is basically totally different from the rest of the world's.

I might also add that I have had no support from parents since i was a teenager and have not asked for any. I have refused the very few (grudging and rude) offers of help in the 20 years since i was a teenager. Once the baby's here I won't be asking for anything at all, particularly not babysitting as i live in a different country from them. So actually they will have zero obligations in terms of running round.

Sister has a good relationship with parents, so she veers between being positive about the baby to me, and yet sometimes very barbed and negative about my apparent deficiencies. Her daughter (first grandchild) is also fairly negative about me, clearly mirroring what her mother and grandparents say when I'm not there.

The other grandparents are perfectly normal people - obviously I'm their DIL not their daughter, so I'm not that close to them, but they're being nice and excited about it all.

I don't think my parents' attitudes are likely to change uch - just kind of looking for insight from people perhaps closer to their position as to what, if anything, can be done to improve the situation.

Well I am a mother of 2 sons, my youngest 22 yr old son has full custody of my 3 yr old granddaughter whose mother has seen her twice in a year, it's been very hard for the family & worn me out running around & doing everything to make sure they have all they need, my sons girlfriend who lost a child at age 16, now has 1 yr old with a dad who's a drug addict is now expecting a child with my son, I completely accept my son is as responsible as this silly 20 yr old girl, but the dysfunction is sending me mad, I cannot embrace this news with happiness, it's a disaster, oh & she lives 40 miles away with no desire to move, my son also has no desire to move, what happened to having a child and actually giving a damn about that childs welfare before it's born - would appreciate comments & probably in need of counselling

Congratulations on expecting your first baby! Very exciting news indeed! I hope the other grandparents are excited by the news. I think you need to develop a hard skin, hard though that is. It doesn't sound as if your parents are going to express approval whatever you do. I would ignore their negative vibes and talk about the pregnancy as you discuss other news. If they cannot share your joy that is their loss. It is very hard for you but good you are in a happy secure marriage. What is your sister's attitude?