Glad I'm NOT a grandparent

I do not understand anyone who would keep 2 dogs yet reject their own grandchildren. I have five grandchildren and each one is a treasure. I find it fascinating to see how they develop and I wish they could live closer to me. I do not think it is natural to reject your own flesh and blood.

Are all your friends the same age as you? I have friends of all ages, quite a lot of young mates and we talk about their kids, or for the ones not yet in relationships we talk about who they fancy or their plans to travel.

Of course my fabulous grand children come in to the conversation at times, but plenty of other things we talk about, my older grand children are grown ups with kids of their own, ad the youngest are still teething and we have Ralar the imaginary friend.......but still, art, theatre, books, travels, work, life in general are topics among us whatever age group.

Not everyone wants kids of course, Ralar told me that very thing just last weekend..........

I am glad at times that I do not get to see my DGC. I love them, don't get me wrong, but last time I saw them, the eldest was three and was tearing around like a bull in a China shop, knocking his baby brother over, throwing a Fisher Price telephone at his head and getting away with it. I wasn't as poorly then as I am now so I could imagine what it would be like now with a five year old and a three year old who do not get told off and would not get told to be careful around Granny.

When I did go and visit, I ended up sat on the settee at their flat, just watching them, it was like visiting a zoo. I tried to play with them but they wouldn't come to me. It was always me travelling to see them, she wouldn't make the 45 minute journey on the train with a baby. So they didn't get to see me often enough to make a bond really.

She stopped me seeing them the year before the final time of her withdrawing them from me, for about 4 months. So this time there is no going back as I can't keep getting my heart broke when I do try to make the relationship with them work. I have cut myself off emotionally but maybe, with being ill, it is for the best, like I said, their parents wouldn't tell them to calm down. In fact, the eldest said something hurtful about me last time I was there and my daughter just laughed. I'm better off out of it. But it wouldn't have been my choice had my daughter been the type of person who put her mum in the position I should be in instead of being kicked to the kerb. I would have relished being a grandma, lapping it all up but without the threat of them being taken off me.

Actually, this is a forum for grandparents OR people of 50 or over.

On this page www.gransnet.com/info/about it says:-
"*What if I'm not a grandmother?
We have a shed for grandads (though we don't insist they stay in there) and lots of topics that are of interest to a wide range of people. So, while the overwhelming majority of our members are grandmothers, we pride ourselves on our inclusiveness."

There are women - and men - on Gransnet who have grandchildren, do not have grandchildren, have children, do not have children, are married, are unmarried, are divorced or widowed. There is no guarantee that grandchildren will not be www.gransnet.com/info/aboutmentioned on any thread that the original poster is reading, but she will find a lot of other conversations too, on subjects from politics to pussycats, and people with a lot to say about everything.

Yes - this is a forum fur grandmothers .........

You are only 60 which is the new 50.So I believe unless you are the mumsy type which and I stand with hands in the air you are in my opinion not so at the present time, but some time in the future you will have a different frame of mind.I too felt like that when I was your age but now as a grand mother I can't get enough of them and watching all the different stages they go through.

Cherrytree, Jalima.....Cambridge English dictionary clarifies the word 'nix' as American English (I'm from the US), and that it originates from the German word Nicht meaning nothing or for naught. According to Cambridge's definition it means to stop, forbid, or refuse to accept something. Happy to share my new word and that I learned something too in the process!

Why are you googling it? If you are happy why bother seems a little strange to me to

Could we talk about you instead?

Endlessly if that's what you'd like bionicwoman
Where shall we start .....

Good for you bionicwoman!!!

JLT I think said that she hailed from Scotland on the welcome site

Thanks jalima thought it was a typo.

Its a good word Willa I shall use it in my next game of scrabble.

I had to look up the meaning of nixed as I have never heard it before:
www.vocabulary.com/dictionary/nix

For anyone else who doesn't get out much

I wasn't in the least bit interested in being a Gran and my daughter used to say she was very relieved because some of her friends were being put under pressure by their parents to have babies. Then.....she fell in love, married and we now have 2 gorgeous grandsons. We all changed our minds it seems ???

Elegran, you're probably right (bait) and I should have suspected as much, but I am new to this forum myself. Like the Barbra Streisand song "Don't rain on my Parade", I saw someone putting a negative spin on being a grandparent simply because she is not, can't or won't. No one is banned and neither are their comments although it would be nice if we could vote on comments that are deliberately provocative or irritating and this is one of them. It felt wrong ...the kind that is just begging to be nixed.

Two, perhaps three, DGC cuddles for me tomorrow We've all been on separate holidays and boy, have I missed them!

Me too Jalima as the (whisper) DGC will be here after lunch.

That was to im68now, clearly I have missed something.
Like the sound of the brown suede boots though!

Only joking Ana don't know about cuddly, could do with losing more than a few pounds though.

I am hoping to have two lovely cuddles any time soon

Sorry roses, that came out wrong - I meant they weren't as active or as young in their outlook as they tend to be nowadays...(can still be old and cuddly, of course!)

My post was to Ana btw

I resent that! I am a cuddly old dear.?

princesspamma Do you know what's worst than doing the school run, doing the school run when its raining, you've got to carry their school bags and try to keep them dry and watch were you're going, but no I don't suppose you ever will now, you're just to old and it showed in your post and you're certainly in your own little world which you thoroughly enjoy.

Have a nice day