Glad I'm NOT a grandparent

Chewbacca "I enjoy being a granny far more than I enjoyed being a mum." A universal truth, me too.

I enjoy being a granny far more than I enjoyed being a mum.

I'm GLAD I am a GP.

At 35 my daughter had no intention of having children, she had her own business and living the life of riley. No partner, no husband: at 38, 2 children and a husband.
bionicwoman you never know what's round the corner.

Or 'men who are not grandads' as the case may be

As I said early on in the thread, there isn't much talk about grandchildren on Gransnet!

I rarely mention my lovely GC ..... from memory, I probably mostly talk about food, wine & going out and about

To redeem my grandmother credentials, my DGS is arriving tomorrow for five nights and I have an action-packed programme planned

Sorry and granddads too.

Looking down the Active forum at any time, generally only about 1 in 5 threads are specifically about Grans/grandchildren.

Gransnet does indeed have many threads about being a grandparent ("droning on" apparently ); but it also has many threads that are irrelevant to that - and all contributors bring welcome shades of opinion, ideas and fun to many topics that reflect that we are all human beings (mostly on the older side).

Have I misunderstood ..... isn't Gransnet mostly about Grans?

I really liked your analogy Maw Crufts indeed .

Aaargh!! Not, not no!!!

in, no n. Proofread, proofread, proofread!!!

Hope they're untwisted now, as it's far too cold n February to have an underwear malfunction!

When Thanks, I have always felt welcome on GN it was Luckylegs assertion that this was a grandmothers site that got my knickers in a twist .

I realise that this is an old thread and isn't going anywhere, but just wanted to say to sunseeker that of course you are welcome in GN, and yes, of course it is for anyone who is interested, of whatever age or whatever family circumstances. Your views are just as interesting as anyone else's! I'm sorry that you have lost your DH but I'm glad that you have had a long and happy marriage to look back on.

Not sure why this thread has been revived and OP is of course entitled to her opinion. However it's like picketing Crufts with a banner saying "Why I don't like dogs" and also cruelly rubbing salt in the wound for those estranged from their grandchildren, any whose daughter/DIL may be struggling to conceive, any who have miscarried or any grandparents mourning a beloved grandchild.
So, again, why start this thread on GN?
Alternatively, "Methinks she doth protest too much" ?

Oops, just realised how old this thread is

Luckylegs I am on this forum because it is for people over a certain age, not just grandmothers (in fact I understand even men are welcome!) When you don't have children you are often excluded from many things, do you want to exclude me from here too? As for having a strong relationship with partners, my DH and I had a long wonderful and happy marriage but he died 6 years ago - are you suggesting just because I didn't have children I should shut myself away in some kind of purdah? I am happy for those who had children/grandchildren and as I have said I am always pleased for them when they boast about their exploits but it just wasn't for me.

I don't have grandchildren, yet. I feel a bit out of it when with 2 close friends, and they are discussing their very full lives with their grandchildren. They keep it to a minimum though, and we talk about lots of other subjects. I would love to be a Gran, you are all very lucky. I was not very maternal when younger, had my first child at 35, so if I'm ever lucky enough to be a Gran, it's a shame that I'll be an older Grannie and not such an active one. Nothing I can do about it, would certainly never drop hints, I just enjoy and am proud of my boys. OP does sound a little bitter and unhappy. Why would you post that?

Why are you on this forum Sun Seeker, it puzzles me. In no way am I critising you but if I didn't I wouldn't be looking at a grandmothers forum. I have friends who either chose or couldn't have children and all of them have a really strong relationship with their partners and lead very full lives. There lives do seem uncomplicated compared to my family dynamics, I am perhaps not very good at it.. I am glad I did have my family, but have had really wonderful times and a few bad ones, but thats life.

I didn't have children (not the maternal type!), however whenever I meet up with my friends I am always happy to look at photos of their grandchildren and hear about their latest exploits and successes. My friends know this and after a while the conversation changes to other things.

To each their own! I adore my grands but respect the op's feelings. Everybody's different.

I fully respect the OP post about not wanting g/children , the same way i respect couples who do not want children, BUT i adore my g/children , thank goodness next week is half term as have 1 G/daughter staying for few days ,whooppeee , i own 3 dogs and we enjoy our walks with dogs , i just hate that g/children are growing up so fast , so i treasure every minute i have with them.

Haven't rft
I would love them and so wouldDDs but neither is in a relationship
I am66 and just hope they arrive before I'm too old (had my children late in life)
But I'm very happpy to talk to my friends about theirs ,admire photos etc .

rubylady I really feel sad for you. You must be bewildered and so must your grandchildren. Do not give up hope. When they are 16 they will be able to make up their own minds whether they want to see you or not....I am sure you will find they will miss you as much as you miss them.