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mumofmadboys Tue 25-Oct-16 07:22:21

I would send a gift for the GGC and maybe a cheque for GS and partner. That way you know whether it is cashed. I would see this as a way to offer an olive branch and try and keep a path of communication open. Young men find it hard to climb down but it may offer him a chance. Maybe a chatt letter as well giving some of your news. Do hope things improve.

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notanan Mon 24-Oct-16 23:44:24

Sending a gift to someone who has let you know that they do not enjoy hearing from you is not a kindness, in a way its quite the opposite.

Sending just to the child will give you the best chance of it being well met all round, it may show that you are appreciating that the adult wants distance from you and may build a working relationship with regards contact to the child?.

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cornergran Mon 24-Oct-16 20:43:24

Horrid situation. Yes, go with your heart but I agree and think a gift for the little one only. They may accept things for their child that they would reject for themselves. If this year a gift were accepted for the child it's a step forward. If not you have tried. So sorry you are in this painful place. Enjoy your a Christmas away.

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Coolgran65 Mon 24-Oct-16 20:34:38

What does your heart tell you?
I'd send a gift for the wee one, card to the adults.
If the gift comes back then sadly you will know where you stand.
Sometimes we just cannot make everything right, I'd make the gesture to the wee one.
So sorry nothing has improved. x

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over60plus Mon 24-Oct-16 20:28:03

Some of you may remember my post from August in reference about our GS nothing changed, but with Christmas looming time to think of what to do we will sent our greatgrandaughter a gift, but what to do about GS and partner? Our son his Dad said do nothing every year money I send him comes back, but how can we buy his sibling and not him rock and a hard place to be in, we are going away for Xmas and new year a first for us but with my DH health and all the problems we feel the need to be away, our son says go and enjoy.
Would be grateful for any of your thoughts on what to do about gifts

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