Grandsons dad seems to be drifting away.

I would get that contribution set in stone before he starts to forget that too. Sadly some men are quite capable of 'forgetting' that they have a child.

He does contribute financially, credit where credit is due-I realise that some mothers & children don't always have this help at all .
Plus I do fear that he is getting his priorities wrong. I always try to see the best in people & have up until recently considered him a gracious & kind hearted young man. I'm seeing a different side to him these days & as has been mentioned many times, it's his loss. I feel such sadness by it especially as (different circumstances) I grew up never knowing my own dad, it's heartbreaking to think that if he carries on this way my gs will never get ti build that strong bond with his dad either.

norah551 some men are useless at maintaining contact. I wish I could tell you that he will improve but I fear he won't. All I can say is you are seeing your DGS grow up and he is missing it all. You have the hard work but also the joy and the pleasure. Childhood is so short and they grow up so quickly. You will see your GS grow, become a teenager and then an adult and you will have all the memories. When you feel angry about the dad feel sorry for him as well. He might realise too late what he has missed.

I'm presuming that the father is relatively young and time spent with a new girlfriend is going to be a lot more enticing than a day with a two year old - even if it is his own two year old. Perhaps he will take more interest when the boy is older and can enjoy "boy" type outings.

If he's not around to help I hope he is contributing financially!

My daughters do what they can to help out & take off some of the pressure but at they're age 13 & 15 they're none to eager to assist with wiping noses or bums and I never expect too much from them tbh. Plus they've got their own interests & school work to contend with & I guess he almost fits into the role of the "annoying little brother" at times. They try they're best & I would never knock them for their efforts! They're great kids ?

Can your other 2 DDs help with the little one when he is there?

You are right to be fed up that this young man is shedding his responsibilities so casually. I am sure that your presence is a great help to your GC.

I understand your frustration norah551, some men seem to abdicate their responsibilities without a second thought. There isn't an easy answer as Grannyknot said, encouraging the father when he does visit rather than criticising, carrot rather than stick. Does seem unfair I know when it's something he should be doing anyway. Try not to dwell on the problems, enjoy your grandson and help your daughter, you are doing totally the right thing

Hi Norah. I can understand your feelings of resentment.

I don't think there are any easy answers in this situation...

for you.