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You can't be that bad if he left his children with you for years on end!

He sounds angry that you have the nerve to move to a beautiful place and not be able to baby sit anymore.

I'm sorry the text didn't get a positive result but at least you know where you stand.

Ask him to explain again what he is saying. Still sounds like a petulant child sulking cos you took is free childcare away.

Do you understand what he is saying Trisha ? What does he mean by this ? I think my family would be upset if I moved away but would not tell me not to contact them again ! What was the relationship like before and did you discuss your plans about moving with your family ? I know we are all free to do what ever we like but it can impact our family , especially if we have been close to up sticks and move away from them . Your son is upset that you don`t understand why he feels the way he does , you all need to have a discussion and listen to each others point of view or just get on with your new life without your family in it .

I am so sorry you are in this situation, Trisha, no advice other than stay strong. Had you talked to your son and family about the move? You don't say how far away you are but I hope with time bridges can be built and perhaps there can be visits. Is your daughter in law more understanding? I also hope your husband is supportive, it's hard moving to a new area so be kind to yourself. Wishing you good luck.

I have sent him a text and got back 246 text message back between us telling me only to contact him again when I understand what he is saying and to tell the truth the truth about what I do not know.

'we have babysat for years'

I think that sums it up. How dare you have your own life? Your son is acting like a petulant child.

That said, you're missing him and the grandchildren so somehow you have to reopen contact. I can understand your fear of more rejection and abuse. Why not send him a text? Just say something like, 'Hello. How are you all? xxx'. It's a risk he may not reply or may reply with more sulky abuse but on the other hand he might say, 'Hello. We're fine. How are you?'.