My DD2 and SIL have very demanding jobs and work full time. As a result both grandchildren attend after school programs during the school year and a full day summer camp during vacation.
I recently got off the phone with DD2 who complained to me yet again, that both of of my GC (boy 9 and girl 7) are now more preoccupied than ever with 'games' that involve inappropriate touching and very suggestive poses. Without going into details, my granddaughter likes to perform dance routines that have become very sexualized and I can't for the life of me understand how she can come up with such moves on her own. My grandson has gotten in trouble at school for touching other kids. He also touches his sister and she likes to touch him back. Needless to say, I am very concerned about what is going on with both of them.
DD1 and I both feel that DD2 should investigate possible abuse and/or talk to a therapist. DD1 suggested as much and it ended in a heated argument. DD1 said that her sister's response was to either bury her head in the sand or to lash out angrily.
Today, DD2 complained to me again about my GC's behavior and that nothing she does or says to them seems to get them to stop and that it's getting worse. She told me they have embarrassed her in public. I then asked her point blank why she can't accept the possibility that someone is abusing them and asked her why she wasn't pursuing that more vigorously. She told me there is no possibility of that, that I had no right to accuse her of not doing anything and then she hung up on me.
She just now sent me a text message "Remind me not to talk to you about my family ever again!".
Dearest friends.....Am I overreacting? I don't recall my own kids doing this at any age. Can anyone tell me if this sort of behavior is normal among seven to nine year olds? ? .... If there is real cause for concern, how should I proceed? They live fifteen hundred miles away!
