Very interesting points raised here.
I have a DCS aged 17, DGD 15 children of DD & DSiL raised as caring, lovely people, like their parents. I am immensely proud of them both, love their company and would do anything for them all.
Youngest DS has DGD, 4 and baby DGS . Their parenting skills leave a lot to be desired and although DGD is a delightful child and I enjoy her company without her parents, I am concerned for the future of both of them, but keep my opinions to myself. To clarify, they are not in danger from physical abuse or anything , are loved but taught no manners, far too many cheap, tatty toys which are played with once, ruined then discarded, dressed IMO, like chavs in badly made, horrible clothes, don't have feet measured, have c...p food at anytime of day and so on. Both parents have been brought up well, educated, good jobs, like the best for themselves( cars, clothing, social life) so I do not understand the attitude towards their children at all.
Finally, eldest DS and partner have just adopted a little boy 10 months and from the moment I met him, unexpectedly, felt overwhelming love for this little chap. Both parents have the same values as us DD and he will be brought up as eldest GC. I love and adore them all, but was expecting to take more time with the newest addition to the family.
In agreement with others, glad to be GPs and not have the ultimate responsibility, but woluld, in the event of necessity, gladly take any of them on full time.