1) Have grandparents always provided childcare support or do you think they are being relied upon more year on year?
Not on the same level. My parents or in-laws did very little babysitting for me. I was not able to work until my children went to school but I really didn't mind as I enjoyed being a stay at home mum. We just cut our cloth accordingly. Nowadays, most mothers, including my own children, return to work (out of necessity) and yes it is 'expected' that grandparents babysit if they are close enough. When I took my children to school there were very few grandparents doing the school run and they stood out. Nowadays, its the 'parents' who stand out as there are so many grandparents doing the school run.
2) Have some of you (or people you know) felt obliged or forced to take early retirement because parents have no other care options?
Yes: I took early retirement so that I could help my daughters with their childcare but now wish I hadn't as I now have ten grandchildren and I find it such hard going trying to keep everyone happy.
3) Are parents requiring support those who
a) receive free entitlement but it doesn’t cover their needs
b) those who are not entitled to free hours, and can’t afford to pay for provision
In my case its a bit of both. I have four daughters all with young children. Two of my daughters work irregular hours and can start really early or finish really late and therefore childminders/nurseries are not really an option. Also school holidays are a massive problem too. One of my daughters needs more help than the others as, through no fault of her own, she is now a single parent. She is finding it tough emotionally as well as practically.
4) What does this say about the current state of childcare provision?
We need a different approach to it. I still have to work as I can't make any money childminding my own grandchildren. I was told I could register as a childminder but that I would have to have children other than my own grandchildren in order to qualify? As I have so many of my own - I could not take other children; consequently I cannot register and receive any Government payment, whereas my daughters could take their children to complete strangers and qualify for free childcare.
5) Are grandparents getting enough support?
From whom? I feel it is expected from our children that we co-parent their children. Its hard work when you get older and I don't think young people understand this. Because I had 4 children in five years, incl twins, they seem to think I should be able to look after 4 children now without any problems. I keep telling them, I was 28 years younger!!!!! I love them all but I still have to work part-time too and I am a carer for my elderly mother so juggling work, 10 kids, my mum is difficult and I feel I have absolutely no free time - oh and forgot the dog!!!
6) Do you find more grandads are involved in looking after grandchildren than in previous years?
My husband is step-grandad and he does help a lot. Sometimes he gets frustrated but basically he will step in and babysit when I have to work.