Anxiety re birth of third grandchild

Congratulations to you all.
I have been following your story and so pleased all is well.
As I said to OP, what a happy Christmas you will have.

Well, hurrah, prayers answered DGS born 1am Sun 10th. Had been given hormone pessary Sat morning then allowed home. Went in Sat evening about 9pm, asked for-and received-epidural quite quickly. He arrived naturally without any assistance about 1am weighing 8lb 14oz.
Needless to say we think he's wonderful. On FT he certainly looks a bonny sturdy chap. Other GPs heading for home today as SIL now on paternity leave and 4 year old big sister back to nursery today. Other GPs will be there for Chritmas. Now DH and I need to thoroughly be rid of flu so we can dash up for a quick visit and cuddle-while still making a fuss fo his big sister.

Well after all this. . . .DD saw midwife, she's to ring her local,hospital in the morning to check there's still a bed then go in to get started. Thank goodness if he'd waited much longer he'd be born with a beard!
Her in laws save arrived today to look after 4 year old so much relief all round.
DH and I still suffering flu like but no worse. Want to be well to go up ASAP to met the little chap.
Our prayer is for a swift natural delivery but, as u say Starlady, just want them both safe well.

Yes so agree Star Lady-a safe delivery for both Mum and baby. Hospital rang today to cancel appointment as they're full. If she starts over weekend sha has to ring and they will tell her where to go.
What a performance!

Oh dear! So sorry gs not here yet, Newquay! I think it's very smart of dd to induce. Great if she ends up having a natural delivery, but the most important thing is that baby is born healthy surely.

Sorry about your and dh's flu-like symptoms. Hope you feel better before gs gets here.

Hope dd has an easy delivery, section or not, and that all is fine with gs.

No Starlady he is NOT here yet for goodness sake! DD seeing midwife again today, saw her last week and she did a sweep-nothing doing. DD has appointment for induction on Sat. Her hubby medic-not obs. As he rightly says an elective section is better than an emergency one but so hope for a natural delivery. They suggested we come back home last Tuesday-so glad we did as have had flu like symptoms since, wouldn't want to spread it to them. Feeling much better today although have heard DH sneeze! Ooh will we have a tale to tell him! His sister is excited but I think she's beginning to get a little bored with it all now. She's at nursery and they have local folks on standby so we'll just go back when we can. . . .

Just catching up with this thread...

Congratulations to all, Fellow! Such a joyous time! What a beautiful Christmas this will be! Best wishes!

Newquay, I imagine your new dgs is here by now. I hope all is well.

Please avoid giving unsolicited advice, as young parents often don't want to - won't - hear it.

Still waiting. . . . suggested yesterday some raspberry tea-dismissed as old wive's tale. So suggested a curry for tea tonight-withering look! Cannot possibly suggest sex and nipple stimulation ?

I would take the advice of the consultant, sections are for emergencies.
If baby would be distressed and natural delivery not possible then I would think section is the way to go.
Seek professional advice.

Thank you all for your messages and good wishes. Dear Newquay hope everything goes very smoothly and soon!

Thank goodness for modern medicine/surgery.

Lots of congrats and good wishes to all.

Fellowfeeling8, Congratulations to you and your family! Happy to know that everything went well.

Newquay, just hang in there (as we say in the US). Best of luck and do let us know

Both of you will have much to celebrate this Christmas!

Congratulations FF-so pleased to hear your good news after all your anxiety. Now the fun begins! Lol! We're on baby watch, staying with DD2 3 hours from home, awaiting arrival of her 2nd baby, our 6th DGC. He was due yesterday-hurry up baby, we're longing to meet you especially your big 4 yr old sister. Keeping calm, not asking how she is every five minutes. . . .

So pleased it's all gone well. My mother was 5' 2" and I was 9lbs. No C section and she never had any inclination to do it again

Congratulations to you all.
What a Happy Christmas you will have.

Very pleased to report that our new granddaughter, as yet unnamed, arrived yesterday following an elective Caesarian section. She was a big baby, 8lbs 14oz, and my daughter is a slight 5’2”. Feel on top of the world that this anxiety has turned out so well. Thank you so much to everyone who sent supportive messages, it was a great help when I was feeling so stressed.

FF I will all turn out all right in the end. We do worry about our daughters giving birth but remember after all these horror stories, the tellers are still here to tell the tale.

Sorry you're feeling so stressed out, Fellow. I guess it's normal for us to "suffer" over the problems of our ac and gc. Dd will decide what's best for her though. The important thing is the end result - hopefully, a healthy baby with mum doing okay, as well. Doesn't matter how baby gets here.

Congratulations! And best of luck to dd! I'm sure everyone will feel better once baby arrives.

Thank you so much to everyone who has bothered to reply to my plea for some soothing words. It has so good to air the subject and to hear everyone’s view point and experience.

That is a thought to take on board, isn’t it. Imagine being a mother to a pregnant daughter in Victorian times!

Also I realise how little I considered my own mother’s feelings when I was pregnant. I am very different in build to both my daughters, they are 5’2”and 5’2.5” while I am 5’7”. They were both born with normal deliveries and very little trouble.

My mother, who had had a very difficult birth with my older sister during WW11 when many medics were serving in the forces and medical care wasn’t excellent, was very worried about me but I was very keen on natural childbirth, which luckily worked out for me. As often happens I don’t think I considered her feelings very much being very wound up with my own concerns! Oh dear!

Dear Bluecat, you must be so worried. A dear friend of mine had a stillborn baby due to placental abruption when she was seven months pregnant. The baby was a little girl and she did go on to have two lovely baby boys, but I do remember being on duty at the hospital and going to see her. She had one to one nursing care and was so ill. It was truly shocking. An experience you will never forget. My heart goes out to you, but all can end happily as it did for my friend. Hopefully your daughter would receive very careful antenatal care with her history. Wishing all the very best to you all.

My mum had the most terrible time having my brother and I in the middle of the last century, I had no trouble at all delivering, DD1 has had three C sections, so glad she has made her decision and wish you all possible fun with your grandchild. How lucky we are not dealing with this a hundred years ago!

Please tell your daughter that she has no reason to feel guilty about having a C section. Whichever way a baby is born, it’s never a walk in the park! Labour and C sections both have their problems, but the health of Mum and baby is all that matters. It’s ridiculous that there’s any stigma attached to any method of giving birth.

My first baby was induced, my second delivered by C section. Though her dad was the first to hold her, before I had come round (you could have a general anaesthetic in those days!), I bonded with my second as immediately and deeply as I had with my first. Don’t believe people who tell you that it makes a difference.

When my second DD had her second child, she had a placental abruption during labour. She and the baby both nearly died. Now she is thinking of having another baby, and I’m terrified at the thought of her going through that again.

I sympathise with you - worrying about your your daughter’s pregnancy is worse than worrying about your own! - but it sounds like she’s made the right decision.

My daughter has3 children and was advised after the second not to have any more,due to op surgeries shed had unrelated to pregnancy.
Im medically trained so knew the risks but she went against all advice and had a third.She didn't tell me or her dad until she was 20 weeks allegedly to save us the worry.
She was lucky and with 3 specialists at her section she was very well cared for.
It took her family and all four GP of 6 months intensive support to get the family back on their feet.
My advice would be rest up now,you'll be pulled in all directions once the baby comes.other advice is,it usually turns out ok a year down the road.....

Fellow, I really feel for you and am glad that your DD has come to a decision about the birth. Feeling guilt about a C section which is in the best interests of mother and baby is unnecessary. When she holds her baby hopefully those feelings will go. My DD had a horrible pregnancy and labour and would, I think, have willingly had a C section but it was too late. Good luck and enjoy your new grandchild!

I'm not normally a fan of elective c sections but I think in your daughter's case it makes sense to go for it. I know you've got the operation to recover from but you can feel pretty crippled after a normal birth. What she shouldn't do is feel at all guilty about it. The important thing is the safe delivery of the baby, and the baby won't care how it happened.

Wow there is NOTHING to feel guilty about. It's not gonna hurt anyone else, and it's not a test of virtue to have a natural birth. I mean St Peter doesn't stand at that gate and say "Oh no you can't come in you sinner you didn't have a long painful labour" lol. My best wishes for your lovely grandchild-to-be