Baggs, do you have any loved ones who have a diagnosis of autism, and have you worked with autistic people? This is a genuine not a snippy question.
I have an autistic grandson, worked with children with autism and have a number of very close friends who have children with this diagnosis
I apologise for using the phrase "something wrong" if that offends anyone. It's shorthand in my mind for that feeling that parents / carers have, when their much loved child is finding life more difficult than the majority of their peers.
My own grandson is a delight, very gentle, kind and clever, he writes brilliantly. He is socially isolated, doesn't work and has a few cyber friends rather than friends in RL. I wish there had never been 'something wrong' - his life would have been so much easier than it is or will continue to be,
There is also research suggesting that people on the ASD spectrum are more likely to feel they're in the wrong body and explore changing gender.
Before anyone shouts at me, I'm not criticising those amongst us who are unsure about their sexuality or their gender. I'm simply saying that in my experience, life is tough for most of us and anything that adds to our feelings of difference, can make it tougher.