Feeling jealous of the other grandparents.

yeh I think so - can't help wondering whether having been ignored by them when they were younger that they are just sharing their joy with you and expect you to be happy for them...becuase they trust you. Say -' wow, that's brilliant.' I think that's why; they are not thinking about you, just their own happiness. That's what children do. Certainly they wouldn't imagine that they are hurting you. And you know, we all know, life doesn't work on fairness lines - we just have to find out how to cope with that

What everyone else has said!

And, as you said, they are only children, you are the grown up. It's the novelty value.

Don’t see it as a competition- the more people who love your GC the better. If they say”the OGP have bought us.....”just say “you’re so lucky aren’t you?” And move on. Your GC have had a lot of disruption in their lives and if their Dad and his parents are making a fuss of them, that’s all to the good.

Thank you for your comments, I'll try and follow the advice given. It will be hard but I have to remember the DGC are just that children.

Good advice MOnica. Don't allow yourself to become part of a game Nannawind. Tell your GC how happy you are they have so many people in their lives that love them and things will soon settle down to normal I'm sure.

Has it occurred to you that your DGC are probably telling their paternal grandparents about all the things that you do.

'My other grandma doesn't do it like THAT'.

Their paternal grandparents are new to them, of course they are going to be excited to tell you all about them. Join in their conversations and excitement, tell them how lucky they are to have two sets of grandparents who love them so much. They will soon see that grandparents are a team and not two rival football teams fighting over the same 3 football stars.

I agree, unless the oldest children are saying things in any kind of taunting way ( am sure they are not) then just say ‘Oh yes?’ When they they tell you something, in a slightly disinterested way.
This btw is what a friend of mine did in a similar situation, when her DGD aged 12 was constantly saying how wonderful the other Grandma was, and what she bought for her.It soon stopped!

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Ignore it! Jealousy of the other GPs is not a god route to go down. And don't comment on their silly comments; and don't compete with gifts etc. Play it cool - you are as good as they are in your own individual way. Just don't let it bug you.