No not the same at all. I remember from a previous post we were all racking our brains for things he might enjoy with you, like board games. I'm afraid he's at the age, like most 11 year olds, when what he enjoys is his friends and granny hardly figures. It is what happens but your circumstances make it so much more painful.
Likewise with the twenty year old. She does love you but just doesn't think! I'm ashamed now to say I was the same at her age. It didn't occur to me that my grandparents wanted more contact with me than they had. Or that they missed me when I went off to London. I understand now.
Is it me or am I getting mixed messages
How do you acknowledge Easter.