lack of seeing my grandchildren

You're already seeing your grands weekly. That's more than many people get.

To be honest, when you complain about what someone else gets versus what you get, you sound similar to a spoiled child. How many times did your children say to you, "Why can't I have/do/whatever x? So-and-so gets to!" What was your response?

I am especially unimpressed by your behaviour on Mothers Day. DIL's MIL lost her son. This would be an especially difficult Mothers Day for her. I think it was sweet of DIL to spend time with her.

Please do not judge how much your grands love you by how much time they spend with you. Your grands cannot be your only reason for living. I suggest you find something else fulfilling to do so you don't dwell on what you're not getting.

i have never had them at weekends or over night..strict routine for my gc.i know routine is good ,but maybe one afternoon a week come round for tea, or me to them for cup of tea and story time.

thats just it i/m never included in anything.am single nannie .. i keep busy by helping at charity shop. but just want my granchildren to come to tea sometimes.i did ask can i come to tea tuesday. gs has doctors/,weds then ,bathnight/. thurs mil day/ ,fri early night/. saturday mil/sunday mil. when i can i see gc , church on sunday she says...

i didnt know this is shared on facebook. where does it say this.i dint say it could be shared,

Your DD is gravitating towards the only other person who really understands what her grief is like.I'm sure she and the GC still love you but they need to be with the other gran just now and she needs them.You need to put them first and step back until they work through this awful time .Dont put the emphasis on you ,you're not the top if the list in this situation .

I think when you wrote 'bit upset for all' you meant' big upset for all'
Your DD may feel closer to her DH by spending time with his mum.
Try and be patient. Could you invite them all for a meal including DD 's MIL?
Hope things improve.

No bolds today then!

* moggie* please be aware that this post is shared on Facebook and other social media. Just a thought, as you have included family names.
I also think that having a word with someone at your Church might help you get through this time. People don’t always react as we think they will when they lose a partner and I’m sure that that is part of your problem.

Maybe your daughter is gravitating to the person who gives her support, rather than the one who is adding to her stress and grief by making demands.

Just a thought, try seeing it all from her point of view.

So, you see them on a Sunday and some Tuesdays, and school holidays.

Your daughter takes them to her MILs twice a week, presumably because she lost her son,* your DD lost her husband* and yes, she’s probably a ‘bit upset’!

They probably sit and chat about the lost son/husband, it’s early days for heavens sake, give them some time.