iam64 I’m very fond of my dils mum too, partly because it is thanks to the family values that she instilled in my dil from childhood that encouraged my dil in be so nurturing of not just my relationship with dgs but the relationship between the two of us.
baby1 of course their priorities are each other, but it would be unhealthy if they had no interests outside of that. I’m not quite sure what you mean? I do not know a single woman who prevents her husband from seeing his friends while spending all her time with her own mother.
My ds does shifts, and frequently works evenings, so dil used to have dinner with her mum that night. This is something they still do, only at dils house instead, so dgs routine isn’t affected. Dil also used to spend one evening a week visiting her very elderly grandmother, her mum went the same night, a tradition they had kept up since dil was a child (not something she can do now with the baby) My ds used to sometimes make plans that night if he wasn’t working, sometimes he enjoyed staying home and playing on his computer games. He also regularly attends a pub quiz, leaving dil and dgs at home. Neither of them have ever begrudged these things. They’re grown adults in a very healthy marriage, not posseive teenagers.
The point I was making is that the bond between my dil and her mum didn’t change just because she had a baby. Not every visit is a ‘grandmother’ visit, sometimes it’s just a mum and daughter catching up. My ds had free evenings when he & I could have arranged to get together, but we never did. So our relationship when dgs was born was completely different to dils and her mums. Once I was able to understand that I became much happier.
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