Both my parents are retired and for the past few years come up for dinner once a week to catch up. This was fine with my parents in law as we see them once a week for tea too but since we had our baby they have started to get jealous. As I am on maternity my parents now come up for a full day but we still see my parents in law for tea once a week and on weekends if my husband wants to do anything with them. My father in law works but mother in law is retired. She said (via my husband) I should spend a full day with her, but I said to him that when I am back at work (I work longer hours than my husband) he will be going around hers with our child most days and will never invite or see my parents without me so why do they expect me to spend a day a week with her? I don't understand why daughters in law are expected to spend time with their in laws without their partners but that son in laws are never expected to make a effort? My issue now is that because I have said I won't spend the day with my mother in law she has told her family I hate her and keeps texting my husband saying I don't like her and she's upset, I text her how our baby is most days and send her photos... Which my husband would never do to my parents, and when we go for dinner I am trying but she has decided I don't like her and so has stopped talking to me like she used to? I just need help on what to do? I still have an online business, a newborn baby who feeds every half hour and have three days of baby classes as well as seeing my parents and friends so although alot of you will say I should give her a day it's a lot for me, I don't understand why she can't see that my parents are visiting me as well as the baby and that I saw them before the baby too? My parents are upset as they know my mother in law has the better deal as when I am back at work they wont see the baby for weeks as my husband isn't expected to make any effort with them and I honestly wouldn't ask him to as I know if he had a free day he would rather see his own family than mine! What can I do to try and explain to them it's not reasonable to get upset I won't spend a full day a week with them without my husband (we haven't so much as gone for coffee alone before baby was born so it's not that they actually want to see me)? And have you had anything similar and how did you sort it out... Baby is breastfed and won't take a bottle so giving them the baby for a day without me isn't an option either at the moment.
What do you think would go well with coasters like this?
Baby Reindeer - anyone watched it?