Can a baby be TOO good?

Two of my three baby boys were "model" babies, the third didn't sleep through the night until he was two and a half. p

...and he was two weeks early after I was induced, I was admitted to hospital at 36 weeks with pre-eclampsia as well.

I had a very contented baby boy ( he’s 25 now). He slept very, very well and was a dream. The other ladies from my anti-natal classes were so envious to the point of being nasty, as their baby girls were all nightmares. My son was hardly ill and hardly cried. Even when he had chicken pox at 1, he was happy. He’s a very tall, well developed normal guy now. I’m sure you have nothing to fear.

My daughter was really easy. She slept, ate and slept some more. Very smiley to everyone she saw. She's 36 on Wednesday and has 3 daughters of her own but she's fine and reasonably well adjusted. So stop worrying. Just enjoy it.

My second son was a very content baby, didn’t even wake at night after the first few days - in fact the midwife said to wake him up in case he got dehydrated. He has been a joy all his life (so far) more or less average in development goals etc, very bright but fairly average in his class at school, now has his own business as a decorator, never out of work, likeable personality, naturally kind and loving, and has loads of commonsense.

My 1st granddaughter was an absolute dream from the day she was born and even today age 16 ! Everyone who came into contact with her said it was just like having a little dolly to play with, she did everything she was supposed to and never made a fuss. She is still now very kind, very placid and a joy to spend time with. She was a one off tho, my other 4 GC have not been like her ! Dare I say they were “ normal” with the usual trials and tribulations .... not sleeping, colic, tantrums etc etc Just enjoy the baby exactly how he is ? they are all very unique ....

Yes I had the most contented baby who only ever cried a few minutes before feed time. My gd was also a dream baby, never seemed to cry or winge. I think it’s about how the parents are. My son and dil were very laid back as was I, so try not to worry and enjoy.

My first son cried a lot and didn’t sleep through the night until he was two. My second son hardly ever cried, in fact if he woke in the night he would just suck his fist not cry. He has always been happy and laid back but very shy until he reached adulthood. When he started school his teacher referred him for a hearing test as during play periods he would just sit and play with something getting very engrossed in what he was doing and not hearing the teacher when she spoke to him. If she had asked me I could have told her that he always used to amuse himself and would play for hours with his Lego. He has always been contented with life and didn’t strive for success in his studies or sport like his brother but his personality has brought him a lovely wife, a nice house, lots of friends and a job as a service engineer which he loves.

Please don’t worry, just enjoy his differences and him.

Yes.
Why is anxiety so prevalent nowadays?

The fastest thing our son ever did was being born! He was a very contented baby who has grown up to be an amazing laid back 40 year old. He was an absolute doddle as a baby and that has never changed. His elder sister was a very different kettle of fish but she has also grown up to be a delightful woman. Enjoy the peace and quiet and hope that it lasts!

I can't give any medical advice, but one of my sons is severely autistic, and he certainly was not a textbook baby. He reached all his milestones in time, and was a very inquisitive baby from early on, started talking at 5 months, then sadly lost all his speech around 3-4 years. His sleep has always been an issue. His sleep pattern is very unpredictable and fretful, and now at 16 he can survive on a couple of hours of sleep per night. Let's just say, I haven't slept properly for over 16 years either. What I'm trying to say that sleeping through the night is not a sign of autism. In fact all the children with autism that I have met in my son's school have problems with sleeping, though at different levels.

I could never believe my luck with such an easy baby, ate, slept and even after I had quite a traumatic c. delivery......she is just concluding her Enginereering finals so no worries there. I choose to believe that she was contented as we, compared with many new parents we met at the time and subsequently observed, were actually both extremely "relaxed" as I'm sure babies do pick up on emotions around them. So please don't get yourself anxious, enjoy and if anything is wrong cope with it "if" it ever happens

Flaxseed Please don't compare your little DGS against the milestones DDs friends babies have reached I for some reason have always found my DG's very laid back all 4 of my DDs sons have been very contented but hey when my DGD arrived we certainly knew we had her a totally different baby in every way always unsettled and very clingy she is the same now and she is 16 .

Your post was really interesting. The baby is now old enough not to worry too much about quietness. If the baby is too quiet immediately after birth, that is the time to worry.
My Granddaughter ( now eleven years old) seemed abnormally quiet to me on Day one and in fact stopped breathing the first night home. It was only because my daughter spotted this in the early hours that she is still here. It could have been so different. The problem continued for several months which was agonising for all of us, particularly my daughter.

I am no doctor, but I put the two things together. Quietness at birth, breathing problems and fitting.

Like a lot of people have said here, babies are so different. I had a very calm first daughter who slept through at the right time, lay still while her nappy was changed etc She was followed by a whirlwind 19 months later. Daughter number 2 was never still and didn't sleep till she was old enough to go to school. They are still total opposites.

My first DC was a nightmare: never content, always cross,
active and on the go all the time. The second was, by comparison, a dream. She slept like a log, hardly ever cried. She would sit, even as a baby, looking with curiosity at the world and taking everything in without bothering a soul.

Babies are just different. Check the health of this baby by all means but enjoy the calm.

My second never woke during the night from 2 weeks old, never complained about going down for sleep, and her first sentenced speech was "can I go to bed now?". She grew into a lively energetic adult, and had a baby that didn't sleep well for many months

My first son was like this, did everything by the book and i hardly knew about sleepless nights after 6weeks, so when my second son arrived it was like a bomb had exploded in the house with never a minutes piece he was the complete opposite. Hopefully your GS is fine, just be thankful he is so content.

Flaxseed, I have a ten month old grandson that visits most weekends with his dad (my son) and who sometimes stays overnight and I have never heard him cry! He is the most content baby imaginable, much like his father was. If (in the unlikely event) the little one does turn out to be on the spectrum then rest assured that there is still a good life out there for him and try not to worry.

DD1 was an easy contented baby, no trouble at all and slept a lot too.She is fine as an adult.
DD2 was a bit more prone to crying as a baby and not sleeping as well.She is fine as an adult.
DS cried a lot and was very clingy. He is fine as an adult.
In other words, they all have different characteristics, so do not worry about this.
DGS has autism and showed definite ‘peculiar’ behavours as a baby, and was certainly not an easy and contented one.

My second born was just as you describe and even now at mid 30's he just sleeps more when ill.
My gs , his own son is exactly the same too .
Just try to relax and enjoy him.

My first born son was so placid a real text book baby, he did all the things the baby books said he would at the times they said he would including sleeping for England. Always a very placid easy child, never any trouble with anything he did, now a very quiet and placid 40 something with the letters MBA after his name. His brother, born two years later well thats a different story, if he had arrived first there wouldn’t have been anymore!

All babies are different Flaxseed
My first baby made himself heard in more ways than one and was a difficult sleeper.
So bad that our old midwife suggested a drop of brandy in a night bottle.

Fast forward 3yrs to my next baby,
she was completely the opposite.
Rarely cried, very calm and happy.
A great little sleeper etc etc.
But I was constantly checking in her!

Our daughter then turned two, learned to talk and make herself well and truly heard!

Anxiety is quiet disabling, so l agree with other GNers who suggest seeking help.

My younger son was sooo good. Slept really well, in fact slept so well that he was till sleeping in the afternoons before he went to school. He is also very laid back in life and continues to be (with his older and much more awake brother) the loveliest of people. ?

My cousin was a very contented baby. He rarely cried and when he woke up he would lie in his crib and sing to himself.

There is a range of "normal" when it comes to ages for milestones. If you Google the Denver II developmental screen, you can see this. Do DD's friends have girls? Boys tend to develop a little later than girls on average.

PS I think she was waiting to find something worth reading!! Janet and John simply did not cut it!