Can a baby be TOO good?

My DD did not speak till well after she was 2; health visitor in a fret. But when she did speak it was in sentences!

She did the same with reading - not a thing (and school were worried), till one day I found her reading the Wind in the Willows with great delight - "Can you read that?" asks I....."Of course" says she.

DD1 was a gorgeous, smiley baby who woke only to feed contentedly and gaze at us adoringly. I thought I was the perfect mum. ? Oddly enough she never crawled either, but shuffled round at great speed on her bottom, eventually rising up to walk at 20 months.

By then we had DD2, who I swear cried solidly and lustily for her first 6 months - I had to lug her round in a sling all day and we took turns walking the floor with her at nights.

Dream baby had earth-shattering tantrums as a toddler and again as a teenager. Devil baby was a delight as a toddler and sailed through puberty with nary a bad mood.

They’re both lovely now.

Baby #1 was very demanding, very active and walked early at 9 months. No problems as she grew up.
Baby #2 was very relaxed, slept well and walked at 13 months. No problems as she grew up.
Baby #3 was fairly demanding, bright and active. Walked at exactly one year. No problems.
My point is simply that they're all different and that if there are problems in the future, that's when you deal with them!

Thanks.
The crawling isn’t an issue really - I was more concerned with how laid back/placid he is.

I guess it’s because mine were so different as babies.

my D never crawled she got on her feet and walked at 8 months ...we weren't prepared for that .I asked my GP about using stairgates and cupboard child safety locks as my mother never used them for us.Our lovely GP told me dont do it,you'll be worried for the next 4 years about when to take the gates down.When she tries to climb stairs just go up behind her .We did just that and had no dramas ,did the same with our son ,though he didn't walk until he was 14 months mainly becase he was very premature ,

Both my children were very relaxed, slept really well and were never fussy. They now have very different personalities but neither of them had any development problems. If your DGS is getting into the crawling position and going backwards at 8 months , that sounds fine, crawling is a huge milestone no matter what direction they go in. I'm sure he'll be fine.

grannyknot
I have heard others say their children never crawled.
How cute that your DD fell asleep amongst the washing!

GS is getting in position to crawl but so far only moves backwards. DD is quite happy he’s staying in one place at the moment!

The sitting up, crawling, walking doesn’t really worry me too much.

Franbern and any others reading - I hope I haven’t offended anyone by worrying about autism.
However my GS grows up - he will be very much loved.
But I have seen the obstacles my poor sister has come across throughout my nephews life.
His literal outlook on life is so refreshing and we all love him dearly. However, my sister has had to fight for assessments, special schooling etc etc. He is now an adult who will probably never work due to social and sensory issues and so her battles continue.

I’m sure GS has just inherited his parents ‘chilled’ genes and I am worrying unnecessarily.

I have told DD to make the most of it as placid babies are not guaranteed and the next one might be the total opposite!

Flaxseed before babies were so closely scrutinised my daughter (who is 39 years old and a very calm person), didn't ever crawl ( and I don't remember ever worrying about it). Instead, she "rolled around heaven all day" in her own little world - she literally rolled when she wanted to get somewhere. I found her asleep once on a pile of washing that I had not yet got around to putting in the machine!

My grandson is a very placid child and reached some of his milestones late. He has had all sorts of tests (initiated by his nursery) and has been found to be "within the normal range".

Some babies/children/adults are easy going, placid and take things as they come. Just think how fortunate everybody is around this baby.
My eldest g.child is autistic - High end Aspergers. He was anything but a text book baby. I was experienced with babies, not only my own six, but also had fostered many many more, and had been an NCT counsellor. He was the first baby I had come across, that so hated being swaddled, even when a newborn. He was difficult to breast feed and nothing seemed to suit him. Definitely not an easy or good baby or toddler.
He was diagnosed by a family member who was an education psychologist when he was about 3 or 4, then finally officially when he turned five years old.
he is now fast approaching his 18th birthday, and he spent most of his secondary school years at a special school for autistic children where he learned management techniques. Now doing well on his (all science) A levels at local 6th form college.

luckygirl
Thanks for your reply.

DD’s partner is very quiet and laid back. DD is a calm, kind person too, so I’m hoping that’s why GS is so laid back.

Thinking back to my experience when DD’s were babies, I was not well supported by my now ex hubby. I was constantly walking on egg shells. Maybe DD’s picked up on this (or maybe they were just miserable babies lol!)

Get thee to a CBT session!!

Yes - I had a contented baby - she is the most well-balanced and easy-going person you can imagine now and certainly no pathology there.

I hope you can relax and enjoy his loveliness and cross any bridges that present themselves in your path when they arrive (or not). Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof!