worried about grandson’s change of feelings

Sorry Jo.
I just don't understand your family set up.
"our daughter and her wife"
"we are due to collect Ds, Ddil and Dgs from our Dds"

Thank you Auntieflo I’m sure it will, I think I’m just over worrying because it’s such a huge turnaround in his way towards us all.

Bluebell I’m really glad you understand what I mean about punishing, It’s something he has always done and it’s absolutely fine. I completely understand it.
With Skype, he is given the choice wether he would like his story or not, if he says no, then we just say night to him, originally we started doing this because our son was worried he wouldn’t bond with us, but over the years Dgs has really loved story time and been upset if I have not been well enough to do it when I’m in Hospital.

Thanks everyone for your comments, I appreciate them

I assume you are also wanting to spend time with your ds and dil. I'd focus on that rather than the GS. He's 4yo, he has to do what his mum and dad plan, not what he plans to do.

Little ones all go through funny phases - one of my nieces refused to speak to her daddy, my brother, for months when she was a toddler!

I totally understand the punish bit when my grandaughter was nearly 2 her parents went on holiday and I went to her house to stay with her, she wasn’t well while they were away with an ear infection I actually put a mattress down beside her little bed so I could keep an eye on her at night When the portents returned she wouldn’t speak to them go to them or even look st them for a few hours she’s then gradually came round but I felt she was ‘punishing’ them for being away
I too am amazed you manage a daily web call I hate Skype I look frightening it freezes at the wrong moments and when the grandkids were little and staying with me they used to be happy as Larry all day and as soon as they saw. Mum and Dad on Skyp they d start crying and as they used to Skyp evening they would go to bed upset I asked them to stop

We don't see our yougest GC regularly or often, but when we do, he is fine. When DS phones us, he askd if GS would like to speak to Nanny, "Nope" is sometimes the answer, other times he will chat. I hope all goes well on Wed.

Fennel, no this isn’t a wind up, why on earth would someone do that ?.

Jalima1108 I read his bedtime story to him it’s been a routine for most of his young life, he doesn’t have to have one, it’s completely his choice every time.
He’s starting school in September, but agree that it’s coming up to the summer holidays and this heat also won’t be helping him.
When I say “punishes us “ I mean that in his little head he doesn’t understand why we are going home and leaving him, and why he can’t come with us, so for a few days he just won’t speak to us, and actually has said to Ds and Ddil he is cross with us because we went home , maybe punishing was the wrong word,
I mean by genuinely not looking forward to seeing us, that, he’s not messing around saying it, he really means it.
I’m just worried why he feels this way now

Janeainsworth Thank you, I’m sure this is exactly what will happen! You just can’t help worry!

^he’s genuinely not looking forward to seeing us on Wednesday even though we are taking him to his favourite play park. He really doesn’t want to see us at all.
I truly understand that maybe he’s a bit fed up with us, and honestly, that’s absolutely fine, but I really am worried why he is feeling like this, what has happened to make him feel like this.^
Not sure how you know he's genuinely not looking forward to seeing you.

It sounds as if there is far too much pressure on this child to conform to what you are expecting from the relationship.

Just relax.

I have Skyped daily with Dgs since he was very little.
I am amazed that people have such great relationships on Skype because we have always found it impossible - and DGS, when much younger, could be persuaded to wave as he whizzed past on his trike and that was about all!!

Has he started school yet? The youngest ones, in fact all of them, are so tired at this time of the school year and all this travelling and visiting is just something else to think about.

I'm sure he'll be fine when he arrives and goes to his favourite park with you.

Dgs often “punishes” us for leaving for a couple of days or so by not wanting to speak to us, we fully understand this, as he obviously doesn’t understand why we can’t see him regularly.
I find that an odd remark and don't quite understand it, sorry.

jo He’s 4. That’s it, really.
Give it a few weeks and he will be fine.
Just carry on as normal.

Your last 2 paragraphs say it all - the little boy is confused (like me).
And remember young children don't have the reasoning capacity that we're supposed to have.
They're not miniature adults.
Think again about it - try to put yourself in his place.
Unless this is a windup?