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How often do you see local gc

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Jalima1108 Wed 12-Sept-18 21:32:57

I see you have posted before on this kind of issue Diktat - one post at least was deleted by GNHQ.

The other comments you made to someone else could perhaps help you now:

Comment on social media? Seems passive aggressive.

Have you done anything overbearing?

MawBroon Wed 12-Sept-18 21:13:28

Why Diktat - don’t you like them?

SpanielNanny Wed 12-Sept-18 21:11:49

I live about 15 minutes (by car) from my 15 month old dgs, and usually see him once a week. Occasionally I’ll miss a week, if ds and dil are particularly busy, but that’s very rare. My son works long hours, and is rubbish at keeping in touch. To be honest I think I’m a bit of an inconvenience to him! But I’m very grateful to my dil for allowing and encouraging me to have such a wonderful relationship with my dgs.

Iam64 Wed 12-Sept-18 21:10:29

Diktat by name and nature it seems.

Jalima1108 Wed 12-Sept-18 20:50:35

I’ve been able to push it to twice a month.
Why? There must be a reason. Are they abusive? Are they unkind to your DC?

Melanieeastanglia Wed 12-Sept-18 20:33:28

If you like your in-laws and they are good to you and your children, what's wrong with once a week? If they are fit enough, perhaps they could help you with your children. 10 minutes away doesn't sound far, whether in a car or on foot.

If they are not very nice people, I understand perfectly why once a week is too much.

aggie Wed 12-Sept-18 20:00:13

Two of mine have been in already today , and warned me they would be back tomorrow ! but they are 11 and 15 , I am expecting a visit in November from the ones who live further away

Doodle Wed 12-Sept-18 19:49:52

I think it depends a lot on the age of the GC. We have all our GC living within about 15 mins drive from us. When under 5 we saw them every week or two especially when babies.
After they started school about once every 3 weeks.
Now they are older and have lots of after school activities than usually only during school holidays when we try and take them all out together.
We accept that mums and dads have jobs, GC have homework and friends and other interests. We keep in touch by text and phone but as long as they are happy we are happy to see them whenever they are free. Hopefully, this is never a duty or obligation visit. If the are with their friends I am happy.

BlueBelle Wed 12-Sept-18 19:48:55

What’s wrong with once a week sounds reasonably if the kids are happy Depends what age they are really

NonnaW Wed 12-Sept-18 19:44:53

We always lived at quite a distance from both sets of parents so my sons only saw their grandparents once or twice a year.id have loved for them to see gps once a week to really build a relationship. I have been lucky to be able to see my step grandson weekly up till now when he spends more days in nursery, but I’ve loved the opportunity to build a relationship with him, which I wasn’t able to do with my own granddaughter due to distance, work and problems with her mother.

In the end though, it’s up to you.

Diktat Wed 12-Sept-18 19:37:04

Just wondering if you live close to your inlaws how often they saw/see your kids. Mine live 10 mins away and expect once a week but I’ve been able to push it to twice a month.