When dgs1 came along I refused to commit to any childcare as I was working shifts. Other side, sil’s mother was off every second Friday so she committed to this and sil would cover the alternate Friday as he was off. However over the first 3 months of childcare dh and I ended up having dgs for 5 out of the 7 Friday’s sil’s mother was supposed to have them as she was going on holiday or having friends to stay or just going out. Sil then got promotion but had to work every Friday, hence we ended up covering that as well. Dgs2 arrived and sil broached the subject of childcare and said his mother was happy to continue with every second Friday if I could cover the other one! I refused as there was no cover should I have to work that day and also because of the fact that sil’s mother had never thought it a problem just saying she couldn’t do her Friday (often at short notice), leaving me and husband (who retired because of ill heath) or younger ds (who also worked shifts) to sort it out. Dd2 completely understood and put 2dgs in Nursery that day. Her mil was very unhappy with this and said they didn’t need to go to nursery on the alternate Fridays and she shouldn’t lose out because I wouldn’t help. It has caused an atmosphere with sil. However, as previously, dh and I have ended up giving significant help, having dgs’ before taking them to nursery, meaning dh often has to be up at 7am to have them until I get home from work or if on early shift he has to take them to nursery, after I have dressed and fed them before going to work. Then we have to pick them up twice a week and give them their dinner. We are also first contacts for nursery if either child has to come home. Dd1 (who has them 2 days a week) is expecting her own first child early in March and we have helped her out considerably, on the days she has them, since she became pregnant (she has been pretty unwell over the last 5 months). To be honest all this is too much with my working and I have recently cut down my hours at work. However I know that sil and his dm still think I am being unfair. To upset me even more sil has since said to me that he knows I will help dd1 out much more than they have ever been helped as I have cut my work hours now that dd1 is pregnant, whereas I wouldn’t cut them for their children!!
I love my 2dgs’ but feel really resentful that all the help I give is so unappreciated by sil. I had no-one to help me, so I couldn’t work when I had my 5dcs and really think that nowadays there is too much expectation put on gps.
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