Parents, generally love their children more than they love them. If it was the other way round, then they would never leave home.
We had a hectic Christmas too and seeing the GC was magic, but overall moving from bed to bed and house to house and driving, drinking and eating, took its toll, We love them all dearly but we loved being back at home
I also hate it when my children tell me off, who doesn’t ? . I think children enjoy the role reversal.
If, in addition Parents have divorced, then the children can really can go to town with stored up Grievances. Even us couples, who didn’t divorce get criticised. Children all have something that their parents ‘ ‘did’ to them ! Because we are only HUMAN.
Brownsgirl it was really bad luck your GC being ill, but you can forgive yourself, because I think you did amazingly well to stay with your DIL with all this craziness going on.
You must have done a good job as a single Mother, as they trust you with their children.
...meanwhile hugs from me, as you need some comfort. You survived.
Move nearer and then you won’t have to stay the night, and say ‘ I need my space’....why not, your children will, and do.