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AIBU to ban my 2yr old grandson?

(306 Posts)
ReadyMeals Wed 13-Feb-19 11:14:14

He comes to my house and immediately points out any bit of crumb or fluff on my floor, to make me feel like an inadequate housekeeper. He fetches the dustpan and brush to clean them, which I should feel thankful for, except to add injury to insult he make more mess and mayhem trying to clean than there was already. Would it be unreasonable to stop him visiting until he can accept my home as it is? He turned two last month and has been doing this since he was about 20 months old.

Hildagard Thu 14-Feb-19 10:51:59

My grandson loved my new cordless vacuum, so much, that he persuaded his Mum to buy one,. Job done daughter doesn’t hoover anymore!

Beham1111 Thu 14-Feb-19 10:48:40

Are you for real? Over sensitive or what?

MissAdventure Thu 14-Feb-19 10:44:30

It really mystifies me.
I wonder, genuinely, what people get out of using a forum where they don't read most of what's written?

Maidmarion Thu 14-Feb-19 10:43:04

Not sure if this is serious or not ..... But oh, how I would LOVE any of my grandchildren to come in and 'find fault'.... I rarely see them as they live in USA... ?

Badenkate Thu 14-Feb-19 10:42:29

This posting is like having a bad tooth - I keep having to come back to see how much worse the comments are getting. I really don't know whether to laugh or cry!

MissAdventure Thu 14-Feb-19 10:39:32

This

nanasam Thu 14-Feb-19 10:39:29

coco if you'd read all the posts you'd have seen that the OP admitted she was joking!

wildswan16 Thu 14-Feb-19 10:38:05

readymeal please could you send him over to my house. I would love a little help with the corners where the fluff gathers. He sounds delightful but I am sure you wouldn't lend him out.

Can't believe some of the comments from people who can't see a tongue in cheek post! I'm sure you didn't think you would be taken seriously by anyone.

Esmerelda Thu 14-Feb-19 10:36:21

This is the kind of post that I find really annoying as it is obviously not genuine and just put up to provoke a reaction ... the OP has absolutely no intention of banning her 2 year old GS.

MissAdventure Thu 14-Feb-19 10:35:26

Have you people not read the bloody thread then?
Just the first post?!

chris8888 Thu 14-Feb-19 10:33:02

Really ru for real! Be gllad you have a grandson and let him be 2

MissAdventure Thu 14-Feb-19 10:32:46

confused

123coco Thu 14-Feb-19 10:31:29

razzmatazz. Exactly, made me wonder if it was April fools day! Ridiculous and sad. Poor kid!

Badenkate Thu 14-Feb-19 10:30:48

I can't wait until April 1st! I though Britain was famous for its dry humour - it was a light-hearted posting, for goodness sake!

123coco Thu 14-Feb-19 10:30:05

* Jalima1108 *. I find your answer unbelievable! Clearly people don’t understand child development v well if they think a 2 yr old is capable of being considerate to the degree. Is he supposed to be telepathic!At 2 yrs old they are still egocentric and this is PERFECTLY NORMAL! Goodness I haven’t been lucky enough to have children and grandchildren,but heavens above I now see I will hav e contributed greatly to the young children in my care if people really have these feelings towards a 2 yr old developing child still making sense of the world etc. Give me strength! I kind of hope you do ban him and suffer the immense consequences. This isn’t love if you would rather not have him in your life and choose to see his behaviour as a slight. Poor child !

DotMH1901 Thu 14-Feb-19 10:26:19

Never stop a volunteer! Bless - I wish my DGS was bothered at all by the mess they make in the house! I live with four chronically untidy and messy people (DD and GC) and would love another pair of hands to help clean up!

MissAdventure Thu 14-Feb-19 10:26:04

I think you haven't read the thread properly, RosieLeah smile

razzmatazz Thu 14-Feb-19 10:25:27

Is this serious?

RosieLeah Thu 14-Feb-19 10:24:45

Your grandson sounds delightful..if you don't want him, give him to me. I think you are simply looking for an excuse to ban him because you dislike him for some reason.

123coco Thu 14-Feb-19 10:23:44

ReadyMeals . I find this unbelievable that you would even consider this, you must have an incredibly thin skin. You are being paranoid never mind unreasonable. It makes me wonder what other minor things get your goat. How are you going to cope when he’s a teenager and isn’t conforming to your standards! You say he does it to make you feel inadequate. HE IS 2 yrs old. He doesn’t even have those thought processes fo goodness sake!. Think of the consequences if you did ban this and what his parents would think. THIS IS NOT LOVE! Of course there is a solution, make sure there aren’t any crumbs. If you’re unable to do this then praise him and join in and help him, make it a fun activity!

inishowen Thu 14-Feb-19 10:20:26

My grandson, similar age, loves to get the broom out and sweep the kitchen floor. It's just a game at that age. Go with the flow.

Jalima1108 Thu 14-Feb-19 10:09:33

grin grin
some of the replies are hilarious!

No, YANBU Readymeals grin
He is being most inconsiderate of your feelings - you must feel most upset when he finds a dust bunny!

Humbertbear Thu 14-Feb-19 10:07:12

Ban him by all means but don’t then complain you have no relationship with him. He’s a two year old!

Davidhs Thu 14-Feb-19 10:07:08

Take a video of it and save it for his 18 th birthday , encourage him certainly don’t ban him

Wendiwoo Thu 14-Feb-19 10:06:40

My Dgd aged about 5 would love to mop the kitchen floor, extending out of the kitchen door and along the garden path. One time having mopped the kitchen floor leaving it absolutely awash she also drew a sign showing me falling over with the legend “mind” in huge writing. I still have the sign but that dgd, now aged 24, is excellent at supervising her 17 year old sister cleaning, tidying etc but the expensive upkeep of her nails does prevent her from doing any but the very lightest of housework herself wink