Hello all! I am a father of 2 wonderful children, a girl of 7 and a boy of 5. We unfortunately do not have any family aside from our immediate with me and their mother, her sister (auntie) and the mothers mom (grandma). She is remarried and the kids call him grandpa which essentially he is. The aunt has a 9 year old boy. She was addicted to drugs during pregnancy and the poor boy ended up addicted to drugs at birth. The grandparents ended up taking care of him for like the first 2 years of his life and devolved a bond obviously. I think they got too attached and thought of him as their own son but the mom ended up getting her stuff together (sort of) and didn’t need the grandparents as much. They would still take any chance they could to see him. Now 2 years after he was born we had our daughter. 2 years after that we had our son. I saw how the grandparents were with my children’s cousin and thought they would be awesome grandparents. I was wrong. Since they were born they have spent a total of 3 or 4 nights with their grandparents. Up until a year ago we were only about a 15 minute drive. Now we are 5 to 10 minutes away. They rarely ask to see our children and When they do, something happens where they can’t see them or they cut the time short. They have taken the cousin to week long trips. Had him stay countless weekends. If they do spend time with our children they take the cousin as well. We definitely are bitter and sometimes go months without talking to them. They never call to see how the kids are doing ect. A couple of days ago they asked if they could take the kids sledding today (they took the cousin sledding a few weeks ago and were taking him today so they decided to take them as well). We said ok. Now the grandma did call yesterday and we missed the call. So we called today to see what was going on and found out since we didn’t answer the phone “grandpa” already took the cousin and it was too late. Of course my children were crying their eyes out?. I would take them but unfortunately I do not have a car and we are really broke..can’t afford to buy sleds. Anyways do you think we are expecting too much? I had amazing grandparents and just want the same for my kids. I spent way more time with my grandma then they have with theirs and my grandma was 2 hours away and MUCH older. We have tried talking with them but grandma always has an excuse. I am thinking about just cutting them out entirely since they don’t seem to really care.. anyways thanks for reading this long story!! Any opinions would be much appreciated
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