Cheeky or funny?

The vocabulary used in different families can be problematic. Now my DC are married with DC they have adopted some different words.
I would never call breasts boobies but they do.
our DC, aged about 8 and 9, were reading a joke book. They said to their DGM can you make a noise like a frog?. Because dad says we'll get your money when you croak
She did not find that amusing and really believed my DH had said it!!

I would have found the quite rude, would not be tolerated in our family. I wonder why anyone would have found that appropriate.

We were in the garden with my mum. My little boy, aged 4, suddenly came out with the F word. My mum immediately started laughing, I was more cross with her than him. I said "Mum! don't laugh! You'll only encourage him!" Then I told him he must never say that again as it was very rude. He is 52 now and I have never heard him say it again.

Agree entirely Framilode god save us from the fun police.

I brought up 3 boys and our house has always been full of banter which I find very funny. They are completely respectful of women. They know the difference between a joke and being cruel. Sometimes when I 'bang on' one of them will say 'shouldn't you be in the kitchen' They know full well if I thought they meant it they'd be for it.

What a grey old PC world the starchy knickered amongst us must live in. I couldn't live without humour.

Just had a fab weekend. Hadn't seen 2 of my boys for several months. And DGD's (who are very cheeky and often pull their uncles legs) stayed for the weekend too. Their father is quite strict. As I was. There is to be no swearing and no actual insults. Only things said in jest. They are 6 and 8 and they already know the difference because we have pointed it out to them. It's called learning to recognise that difference along with know your audience. So 7 of us celebrating the sunshine, music, humour and my birthday which is today.

My DH was putting a double bed together on Saturday. One where the whole thing lifts up for storage. I commented that it would be great storage and that 'you could hide a body in there' he looked at me and said slowly 'Well......' We both laughed. My DH is one of the most respectful men you will find. It... was... a... joke and I am not a snowflake.

When visiting son and daughter in law recently, they told their boys they had to wait for screen time until we had gone home. However we were obviously hanging around too long when oldest grandson (9 at the time) said "Will you go home now oh no that was really rude wasn't it!" (sorry for the lack of punctuation but that was how he said it, all in one long sentence.)
His mum's face was a picture and guaranteed that he won't make the mistake of voicing impolite thoughts again!

My DGD, 4 at the time' said to me 'you've got big juggernauts' goodness knows where she got that from - I have. I must admit it made me smile but I did say that she shouldn't go round saying that to people and, as far as I know, she hasn't.

Oh for goodness sake ML it was just a bit of a family joke. Different families, different rules. He is a very kind little boy and wouldn't dream of making fun of a child with a disability - in fact his own sister has a disability.

Honestly, you get jumped on on here if you post something as a bit of fun.

That made me laugh Grannyrebel! But at age 8 I think he's well aware he's being cheeky and curious to see what reaction he gets. Our 9 year old grandson is exactly the same and his cheeky grin tells us he knows he shouldn't say it. He spends a lot of time with adults and picks up on the things they say. Having brought up three boys we're well used to it and have learned to respond with humour or an equally cheeky retort. Both your grandson and mine will grow out of it naturally as they get older.

Children hear all these things from school pals, and try to push the boundary themselves. My grandson (7) told me that a football had hit him in his nuts. I totally ignored it, and he hasn’t said it to me since.

I think at 4 or 5 it's quite funny. At 8, possibly not.

Conni7
I would explain that the lines are a map of your life and all the places you have been to and wonderful sights you've seen.
People who have no lines haven't had much of a life.

My friend was bemused when she was called in by school. Her son was being naughty to the teacher and said, "Bosoms to you!" She can't think where he got it from and somehow managed to keep a straight face.

My grandson aged 4 wants to know what 'old' means. Quite hard to explain.He wasn't talking about a person but an old castle.

my 2 yr old granddaughter said while we were getting changed for swimming 'nanny you have a big tummy!' I said yes I know - too much chocolate and pizza gave nanny a big tummy! she accepted that answer!

Of course children say inappropriate things - our job as grown ups is to explain why they shouldn’t not laugh at what they said. How do you think boys especially learn to be do disrespectful towards girls? As for teasing about physical imperfections within families? Why just why? Those being teased may feel they have no option but to laugh along but inside may be hurting. When we’re altogether as a family we have lots of fun and laughter together without making negative personal comments.

(Not the child!)

Cheeky, but knock it on the head.

Kids say some cheeky things . My 7 year old GD said a similar thing to me, and she's not wrong, I have got a large bosom. The 5yr old GS asked if I was having a baby because of my big tummy.....I'm 60 haha

I had a similar problem when my grandson was young. It's necessary to explain to children as they grow up about the appropriateness or otherwise of comments. No need to make a big deal out of it but make sure they understand.

My granddaughter said "Granny, why have you got lines on your face?" I was not offended as she lives in Dubai, where there aren't many old people.

I can remember my ten year old saying something inappropriate about breasts and somewhat surprised, I asked him why he felt the need to comment. He made me laugh when he told me that it was difficult to ignore them when he was faced with them 24/7 because he was eye level with them. I didn't make a big thing of it, talked to him about how he could offend people with such comments, in the same way as blaspheming might. At that age, he was probably just trying to shock but he was also heading for a growth spurt which signalled puberty was well established so his thought patterns were definitely more sexual.
Maryeliza54, we all have to learn when we can joke about things and we often tease family and friends about things that we wouldn't tease other people about. That doesn't mean we're disrespectful. For example, my husbands has 8 of his adult teeth missing through a genetic defect and we often tease him about the size of the tooth pick he needs as he's never had the gaps filled. He laughs it off with jokes about his beauty gaps. However, when my son's MIL had the worst teeth you have ever seen due to osteoporosis, we didn't tease her because she would have been offended, neither would we tease my husband in front of her. Joking with people where everybody feels comfortable with it is a sign of affection sometimes.

Perfectly natural for a child of that age to be a bit rude as long and as long as it's dealt with appropriately it's a useful learning exercise.
Think you're a bit hard there ME but do agree that encouraging the behaviour described by framilode is not appropriate!

My grandson of 8 once asked me why I had a turkey neck.
I was quite upset but did not say anything, Once home Ilooked in my mirror, and saw that indeed I had a turkey neck, red and flappy!!!
The grandson is now 25 and has just got engaged to a lovely Irish girl. I could ask him where his hair is going, but I'm too polite. I've been invited to the wedding !! I will have to wear a high necked dress. Nobody is perfect.

Well Fram well done for enabling and facilitating this boy to be disrespectful towards women, body fascism and ageism. What do you do when he laughs at a child with CP who can’t speak or walk properly? Do you laugh too or try to explain why it’s different from laughing at you and your imperfections?

One of my grandsons always asks if he can flap my bingo wings. He also calls me a relic. I know it's cheeky but I'm afraid it makes me laugh./