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maryeliza54 Tue 23-Apr-19 08:51:27

I agree with the above - it’s not all right to comment on body parts and that needs explaining and why. With my dgs2 who was more obsessed with this issue, I also corrected the words he used - ‘they’re called breasts’ I said firmly ‘ if you do need to refer to them’. That’s all part of the respect issue

BradfordLass72 Tue 23-Apr-19 08:31:34

I think Dad needs to have a bit of a talk with this young fellow and explain how to use respectful and appropriate language - not just to his grandma but to everyone.

At 8, he possibly doesn't know that what he said is impolite but that's why he has parents - to teach him.

We do not usually, in polite society, talk about the size of any body part. It would be just as rude if he'd said you had big feet, nose or ears.
But he needs to know now before he gets himself into serious trouble.
Already at my grandson's school (he is 9) girls are reporting boys (and vice versa) for sexually inappropriate speech and harassment.

Nannarose Mon 22-Apr-19 22:31:23

He's 8 now, and needs to begin to learn appropriate comments or he'll get into trouble! Your son 'told him off mildly' I'd say that's probably the best way to handle it, depending quite on what was said.
I think in some ways, it's best coming from you (not criticism, always difficult in the moment) as it gives a stronger message. In similar situations I say brightly 'I know, but it's not polite to say so' or 'people /women don't like it if you comment' (actual size really not important!)
You an laugh, and get the message across.

Coolgran65 Mon 22-Apr-19 22:16:51

Dgs once asked why I had big boobs I told him it was so I could give the best squashy hugs ?

crazyH Mon 22-Apr-19 22:10:44

Kids don't need a licence to speak....they come out with the sweetest of things, sometimes embarrassing , sometimes cheeky , but always lovable. That's the innocence of childhood. And that's why I love holding a conversation with them.?

Grannyrebel27 Mon 22-Apr-19 21:57:44

It was my grandson's 8th birthday recently. He's always been a bit cheeky but has improved as he's got older and has found a focus with football which seems to have helped with his behaviour. However after his party I gave him the usual hug and kiss and said I'd see him in a few weeks and he said to me "You've got big coconuts!" I haven't I hasten to add! I'm a modest 34C but compared to his mum, his other granny and my daughter who are all flat chested I suppose I have! I was taken aback and didn't say anything but my son told him off mildly. I was a bit annoyed at first but my husband and I had a good laugh about it in the car on the way back. Kids eh!