Cheeky or funny?

I can clearly remember asking an elderly neighbour why she had a line in her chest ( cleavage). Lots of embarrassment from her and my poor.old mum. It was a genuine question not answered to my satisfaction.

The wisdom from a tiny child!
We were talking about smells as in what's your favourite and what's the worst. After we'd done with roses and mummy's perfume.
Me " I hate spilled milk especially in the car after some time"
3yr old " I don't like your breath granny!"

Chewbacca what a lovely comment! How wise of the boy to push all the guilt on to God

If a dgc addressed an I nppropriate comment to me, I’d deal with it there and then regardless of the presence of the parents. It’s not up,to the parents to decide what’s acceptable to me. Not that we wouldn’t be on the same page however

"I was taken aback and didn't say anything but my son told him off mildly. "

Just as well, Imo. If a parent is there, it's really their job to correct their child. (I probably would have been taken aback too.)

And I'm glad ds scolded him, but did it "mildly." I agree with those who say gs needs to learn what's appropriate and what isn't. That's part of a parent's job. But I think it was wise of ds to correct gs mildly since I don't think gs meant any harm.

"I was a bit annoyed at first but my husband and I had a good laugh about it in the car on the way back."

That's the place to do it, imo. Or anywhere totally out of the child's earshot. At gs' age inappropriate remarks can still be funny, but the child doesn't need to know we thinks so.

My elderly neighbours had their great grandchildren visiting them. One of them asked George why his nose was so big. George replied that it was the nose that God had given to him, to which the child replied "Well, that wasn't very nice of him was it!".

That child is in his 30s now and is a very well mannered man.

Oh dear my GSs (12 and 6) often spend ages squishing my squidgy arms and commenting on my great age. When they came over on Easter Sunday we sat and discussed who was going to have which of my ornaments when I die (That one's not going to end well!) It's not cheeky, it's just a game we've always played. The 6 year old's parting shot when they left was " Will we be able to bury you in our garden?"

Surely children have to be taught what is appropriate? Just to laugh it off surely sends out the wrong message.

Describing other women as ‘flat chested’ is more offensive to me. It’s a cruel and more often than not an inaccurate description.

Sometimes young children make spontaneous comments which might appear cheeky or impolite. At a fairly young age such remarks are often copied from someone else and are not understood. When such a thing happens with little children it is sometimes so unexpected that it is funny (but it's probably not a good idea to laugh if you don't want to hear it repeated!).

I think that is different from an older child making comments that they know to be disrespectful or crude. In my view an 8 year old calling his grandma a "relic" is not at all charming or funny.

My 4 year old granddaughter asked me at the weekend why I had no decking outside like her other grandma. I explained I did have but it was very slippy and I had to remove it as I fell and injured my back on it. She asked did I go to the doctors with it and I said I did and am still going to get injections in it. Oh Nanny she said it’s not because of the decking it’s because you are old!!!!!

But it's not just boys, quizqueen. Four-year-old DGD said to me "You've got gimassive ears, grandpa." I thought it was very funny, and to be fair I had just had my hair cut. I wouldn't put it past her to say something similar now she's seven, and I'd still find it funny.

That’s a good point quizqueen, maybe it’s not so funny after all

Is it any wonder that men think they can continue to say inappropriate things to girls and women. It all starts with that 'cheeky' 10 year old! Cheeky=badly behaved, in my opinion.

I think at 8 it needs to be explained to him that sometimes it's nicer to find "kind words" if commenting on people's appearance.

That sounds a bit judgmental, I’m sure the little boy was just having a bit of fun, trouble is not everything shares the same sense of humour!

A lot of people feel embarrassed and awkward when children make personal comments about them, others find it hilarious, either way, children need to be taught not to be rude to people, it won’t make them popular

Stop being so serious and chill, he is a kid, tell him not to say it again and don't laugh in his presence. Save it for when he is not there.

As for disrespecting women, oh please, let's not take it so seriously. Tell him that it is innapropriate to say those things, and if he keeps saying it IGNORE, he will soon get fed up when he does not get the attention he wants.

Boys that age soon move on and find other things to Interest them. Don't worry OP, cheeky yes, but nothing I would consider that bad.

Ditto Telly's comment.

Our next door neighbour when I was a child had a very large bust and cleavage which fascinated me since my DM was almost completely flat chested. One day when they were talking over the garden fence I apparently came out with clothing stuffed down my front and announced that I was like Mrs T now! My mum was horrified and told me how rude I was, Mrs T thought it was very funny!

Walking through a park many years ago with two of my grandsons,then aged 7 & 5, a man riding his bike on the adjacent cycle path was approaching us from the opposite direction. The youngest one said "look nan at that man's great big ears" in a really loud voice. I felt quite embarrassed, however my other grandson told his brother off so to speak. He said to me "Nan you're only allowed to think those things arn"t you, but not allowed to say them" then gave his brother a big nudge with his elbow! The youngest one has always been what we used to call "the original John Blunt" and the eldest born with a book of etiquette in his hands. Some children seem to know naturally what is acceptable to say at a much younger age, others need reminding.

Me too, Breeze.

icanhandthemback I salute your floppy drawers

To the OP I would say it’s very cheeky for an eight year old to say this (to anyone) including his Grandma.
His Dad told him so, hopefully he won’t do it again.
Children have to learn appropriate behaviour and language from their family.

breeze, I'm with you, as a family we find things funny that obviously are frowned upon here! We're happy though and, as a general rule, all get on well so it works for us. My knickers are much too floppy!