Should we ignore it

I wouldn’t dream of saying that to my granddaughter, I’d be mortified if I thought it could upset her, but I suppose my mil type are all cut from the same cloth (insensitive)

Well done to your daughter! Maybe you should step in and ask her not to keep asking as it is upsetting for all concerned. I had a fabulous 1st mother in law, sadly the one I have right now could be nicer. We cannot choose our relatives like we choose friends.

Thank you everyone for your advice

I'm more prone to remark how thin someone is. I don't like 'skinnies'. At one time my daughter was rather 'chubby'. I had no problem with it. But the rest of the family were constantly sniggering about it. She has now gone the other way, lost a lot of weight and frankly I think she looks 'gaunt'. But everyone thinks she looks great. Can't win......

My mother in law was the same, blunt to the point of extreme rudeness. In the end, we just used to laugh at the dreadful things she said at times, she had a kind heart really, I just don’t think she realised how awful she could be

Eglantine21 love it!

Or perhaps even ask her if she has considered asking for a refund from the charm school?

My Mother is exactly the same, she is totally obsessed by other peoples weight and absolutely can not keep her comments to herself. A comment about their weight is always the first thing she says when meeting up with people we haven't seen for a while. Its not as though she's slim herself - she's always been very overweight.
It makes me absolutely furious and I'm always telling her off about it.
My Sister-in-law (who is very overweight) will barely speak to her anymore.

Perhaps there’s something your daughter can enquire about.

Grandma: “Have you lost any more of that weight yet?”

Daughter: “Yes thank you. Have you thought about botox for all those wrinkles?”

Then she could send a flyer from the nearest clinic?

I'm always astounded when people assume that overweight people don't know they're overweight. My DD was very overweight some years ago and my DH told me to 'tell her' as if she didn't know. She was unhappy enough without me wading in. She subsequently lost 4 stone, by hersellf without slimming clubs etc. It sounds to me as if your DD is doing really well. MIL should butt out.

Give your daughter some pointers for dealing with Grandma or perhaps she can ask for a few from her fellow slimmers at SW. I’m sure some will have had similar negative conversations and could help with strategies or even verbal put downs.

Incidentally well done your DD ??

Thanks silverlining, my daughter has tried to tell her grandmother, I think she’s hinted more than anything that she doesn’t need her help.
My hubby has actually asked her to stop this 2 or 3 times now, it stops for a while then starts again.
I agree too, she should keep quiet but she won’t. ☹️

Thank you for your reply, it’s my husbands mother, I don’t know either why people can’t leave things alone

Firstly well done to your daughter who has lost a substantial amount of weight post baby. Her grandmother if she mentions weight at all ( and really she should not) should just give her general support and encouragement. Not advice. Slimming world is there to do that.
As your daughter is an adult it’s up to her to say this to her gran.
My mum used to suggest I lost weight, which didn’t help one bit
Your MiL should keep quiet.

Is the grandmother actually your mother?
Anyway if I was you I would tell whoever that (g) daughters choices in life are her own, weight included and if she values granddaughters company to stop pestering!!
Why can’t people leave well alone?