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Are there any other grans on here who help to bring up their grandchild?

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paddyann Sat 18-May-19 15:28:01

we've had our almost 10 year old GD for half of every week since she was 15 months old.Her parents split and her dad who took the split really badly (he was cheated on) asked if he could come home . He organised shared access with his ex He was here until last year when he moved in with a new partner ,a lovely girl and we decided that the wee one should continue staying with us until she wanted to move into Dads new flat .She thinks of this as home and to be honest she feels just like one of mine .I love having her ,we take and collect her from school 15 miles away on two days and collect her for the weekend on Fridays when she spends time at dads and comes back to us on Sunday evening for the school run on Monday .Its a routine we're used to.By the time my OH gets back from the school run I've done my exercise routine and am ready for work ,I only work part time now I'm 65 .Things may change when the new baby arrives later in the year ,wee madam might decide to live with them ,its her choice we wont make her choose .We also help with my daughters three as she has health issues ,sometimes its manic here but its always fun

LullyDully Sat 18-May-19 15:15:19

We did it full time for 4/ 5 years. It was good at the time with a 2 and a 4 year old. We are still very close but not in charge anymore thank goodness. Our energy levels are not what they were.

Also they aren't keen on visiting NT houses and gardens any more!

Starlady Sat 18-May-19 13:42:33

Wecome, Grany! Your situation sounds lovely! I do some childminding, too, but not as much as you. It seems GPs are called on more than ever these days, as childcare is so expensive - especially if they're already paying for nursery, as your DD (dear daughter) is. Even if there are two parents involved, since both are often working fulltime, GPs seemed to be called upon a lot. Again, I think that's b/c of the expense of hired nannies and also b/c, perhaps, the parents trust us more or want their kids w/ people who love them.

Grany Wed 15-May-19 07:45:11

Thanks for all your responses. EllanVannin I take granddaughter to nursery and pick her up five days a week. We have her to look after at the weekend nice to spend time with her after week at nursery which is just around the corner from where we live. She likes nursery mixing with toddlers same ages as her. So this works as we all get some time to ourselves.

CanadianGran Mon 13-May-19 19:46:35

Welcome Grany, you will find lots of good advice here, and some topics both serious and frivolous!

So many of us Granparents help raise our grandchildren in many ways, some more hands-on than others. I do not do child minding on a regular basis since I still work full time, but I do help out whenever needed.
I have 2 grandchildren that live in the same town, and 2 that live quite far away (either 20 hours to drive, but mostly I fly every few months). They bring so much joy to our lives!

Sara65 Mon 13-May-19 19:13:48

I take one day a week off to look after my grandchildren, one at school now, one little one and a baby, I’ve been doing this now for the best part of ten years, and actually enjoy it more as time goes on, I have a very close and loving relationship with them all, and usually see them at the weekends. During the school holidays when the cousins want to spend time together, I’ve often got six of them staying, because we’re the only ones with enough room!
I know how quickly time flies, and intend to enjoy them!

ElaineI Mon 13-May-19 18:37:39

Yes we look after DGS2 aged 13 months twice a week (more if childminder ill or he is ill). Also once or twice with DGS1 aged 5 and at school and DGD aged 2. Sometimes all three together. It is exhausting but I love it. I have less time for myself than when I was at work! It can be difficult though and I have less time with my Mum who is 84.

kittylester Mon 13-May-19 14:51:03

Welcome grany.

I think there are lots of people on here do to some extent or another. I do the school run once a week for one lot and babysit when called upon either at the home of one of the DDs or here.

EllanVannin Mon 13-May-19 14:49:58

Yes, a joyous time but full time ?

Grany Mon 13-May-19 14:09:42

H I am granny to my first grandchild 14 month old Olivia. Her mum my daughter chose to be a single mum and as she is a professional in full time work I offered to help along with my husband, altogether it's working out fine. I love being a granny, and so nice to join this gransnet forum.