OVER INDULGENT PARENTS

norton, try and keep it zipped, watch and inwardly cry but don`t say or do anything. They are very young and the parents are learning to be parents. One of my dgd has a father who is a helicopter parent, always solves her problems for her, helps her all the time, she needs to make mistakes to find out for herself. I had to keep my mouth shut too. She is 11 now and is becoming the most stroppy young teen ever, he made a rod for his back and also for his daughter. Your young family will find out the hard way and tbh there is nothing you can do except, like me, be there when it all falls apart later

Doodle, when you mean 'it's one of them' what exactly do you mean. A parent? A brilliant mother? An alien life form > Someone who seeks to learn and is more informed than you?

Please explain
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Totally agree with MOnica's advice - sensible, articulate and historically correct IMO !!

Might be. Let’s wait and see.

Just occurred to me as I ended my post! Just seemed odd.

Aah. sussex do you think it’s one of them? Could well be. Time will tell ?

Maybe you haven't explained it very well but there's no harm in being gentle with your kids and giving them time or making them the centre of your universe especially at 2 and 4.

It would probably help if you praised and supported your DIL. So often people seem to repeat the bad behaviour of their parents. At least she is trying to avoid her difficult childhood going down the generations.

I was going to say you need to butt out but I see painting beat me to it.

Just realised it’s half term!

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You can't do anything - at least not if you want to still have cordial relations with them.

Many of us have seen our children do/allow/forbid/ whatever something we would never consider and worry about. I think our parents were the same when we were first parents and so on back to Adam and Eve who didn't have parents.

All you can do is grin and bear it. There is no alternative. The children's first years at Playgroup may be a bit difficult but they will soon learn that demanding everything at home is fine but elsewhere has to be held back.