We all have a little vision of how life will be. Maybe not the closely planned, somewhat obsessive vision that some have, but a kind of universal expectation. Someone to love and grow old with, a home, children, being part of a continuing family. A successful, fulfilling career, travel, being active , whatever.
Then life happens and visions and expectations are just what they always were, something we conjured up in our own minds.
I have found that the way of peace is to let go of the hope and expectation and to live life as it is given to us. So I disagree with those posters who have tried to comfort by saying don’t give up hope.
I read once that hope is an anchor. It can hold you fast and give you stability in a storm but it can also be the thing that holds you back, keeps you tied to your longing and if you discard it you can be set free.
Enough philosophising ? mrsmopp, I wouldn’t wait for your sons to ask you. Just tell them you’re coming to London or wherever and you’d like to meet up. Just a meal. They’ll probably say yes, they just won’t think of it on their own. Because they are men.....