Many of you have been supportive through our DGS's trouble with leukemia, our exhaustion in sometimes spending the lion's share of time caring for him (mum doesn't work), our anxiety about his future.
Now the time has come for a second much-anticipated trip to Disney. They went a year ago. Both visits have been financed by cancer charities.
We would like to go. Both times we've offered to pay our own way, stay in a different resort and see the kids only when their parents need a little relief or perhaps, briefly, at a parade or such. We very much feel the need to experience some laughter and joy, which has been thin on the ground for the past couple years. Our daughter suggested we fund such a trip at Xmas but I didn't want to deal with the extreme crowds or go to the seaside when our grandson really can't handle the waves or walking on sand/pebbles.
I'm extremely hurt that we're excluded.
Our daughter says I'm too critical but her examples seem a bit overwrought. We paid for a handrail on their stairs, urged supportive boots he could wear when he needs rest from painful braces (his house shoes aren't enough), more limits on screen time, which result in tantrums and take the place of any interest in reading or games, and, finally, time outs for hitting or swearing.
These are her excuses for excluding us in any family activities beyond Xmas and Easter. She admits to freely sharing her frustration with me among friends and associates. We live in a small community so this is pretty hurtful.
I'm just looking for suggestions on how to go forward. Our growing GS's are aware of our daughter's prickly attitude and they've begun to resist coming here if we limit screen time at all, though they've begged to spend as much time as possible with us until very recently. They are the light of my life. I'm trying to find more activities that don't include them but it's hard as we still spend a lot of time taking DGS to therapy or in hospital when he needs to be there. I've tried to be as honest as possible. I do offer unsolicited advice at X and am trying to stop. It's difficult when I'm so much involved in daily care.
Honestly, I fear that when we're no longer needed we'lll be completely cut off from GSs.
Mebster Wed 19-Feb-20 17:12:09
notanan2 Wed 19-Feb-20 17:20:55
V3ra Wed 19-Feb-20 17:38:20
Smileless2012 Wed 19-Feb-20 17:43:36
BlueBelle Wed 19-Feb-20 17:50:56
M0nica Wed 19-Feb-20 17:52:52
TrendyNannie6 Wed 19-Feb-20 17:58:55
grannyqueenie Wed 19-Feb-20 18:03:39
FlexibleFriend Wed 19-Feb-20 18:55:01
Sara65 Wed 19-Feb-20 19:03:39
Oopsadaisy3 Wed 19-Feb-20 19:20:11
paddyanne Wed 19-Feb-20 21:12:01
mumofmadboys Wed 19-Feb-20 23:48:17
MawB Thu 20-Feb-20 00:08:44
Pantglas2 Thu 20-Feb-20 07:32:35
V3ra Thu 20-Feb-20 09:00:54
Greymar Thu 20-Feb-20 09:06:59
Greymar Thu 20-Feb-20 09:09:25
MawB Thu 20-Feb-20 09:23:01
endlessstrife Thu 20-Feb-20 10:28:56
notanan2 Thu 20-Feb-20 10:54:11
notanan2 Thu 20-Feb-20 11:00:55
notanan2 Thu 20-Feb-20 11:08:03
notanan2 Thu 20-Feb-20 11:34:12
Farmor15 Thu 20-Feb-20 11:37:10