Toddler sleeping with mum and new boyfriend.

Your son sounds as If he is doing his best. Maybe the only way to go is full custody.
All this drama must be taking its toll!
Hope you come back with better news
[Shamrock] good luck.

Namsnanny
Son would 100% have them full time. He already has them every weekend and a few nights during week. New man has moved in already. I'll suggest that he contact NSPCC for advice.

Well with regards to involving ss it looks as though she has a file already doesn't it?

Call NSPCC for advice before you involve the authorities. Who knows what could happen to the children when the full weight of the state comes into their lives.

Any chance of your son having son live with him part or all of the time?

If current man stays once a week, can your son take his child overnight then?

Son is really worried but any attempt at conversation with his ex results in her threatening to stop access. He knows this won't happen as she has a very busy social life that doesn't fit with full time parenting. She has no filter and will start screaming arguments in front of children. She's already had police and social services involvement for failing to prioritise children over violent ex. So we don't have a reasonable human being here. I suppose my question is, is this situation 'wrong enough' to involve social services?

Oh nannywaffles what a sorry state. No wonder your concerned.

She sells everything. He did have a bed. The other child has to go and stay with maternal grandparents once a week so current man's children can have his bed. It's a terrible situation.

I don’t see a problem with a toddler sharing his parents bed but a casual partner no no no I would not find that acceptable at all
I think it’s your sons place to talk it over with his ex and insist in the nicest way possible that the child needs his own bed

I think I would go out an buy the child a bed along with bedding. Surely they don't have sex while the child is in the bed.

Why does he not have a bed ?

I thought I'd reply as it seems no one else has come across your post yet!

I think I would be worried as well, but what does your son think?
It is his child so perhaps a talk with him to air your concerns?
Make an offer to your son to buy a bed for your gc maybe?