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Struggling with Son living abroad

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Jojo1515 Sat 07-Mar-20 21:56:10

Thank you Jane for your reply. I know he has done what we done. We are not upset that he has done exactly what we did ~(although he moved from a lovely family and we moved away from unloving families) I was simply asking for advice and tips on how to cope. Maybe someone else will be able to help me.

Jane10 Sat 07-Mar-20 21:40:28

What can we say? Adult children do what adult children do. You moved away from your family he's done the same.

Jojo1515 Sat 07-Mar-20 21:25:33

I'd appreciate advice on going forward please?
We moved abroad when our son was a baby. We didn't get on with our families and for our marriage to survive, we had to leave. A job opportunity came up and the move was the best thing we did. It gave our children a relaxed upbringing. A great education and most importantly, two happy parents. Roll on to the end of our sons education and having met a girl online he moved back to the place of his birth. He is now with a new partner and they have a daughter of their own. He has a good job and is very close to his new partners family. He visits us maybe once a year and we visit him. His new partner is lovely and they are a lovely couple together. But we know he is settled where he is and will not be returning home. From being close to his siblings growing up, its like they are now strangers. Our extended family are smug that they have him back! We are struggling knowing we don't see him much or will be a big part of our Grandchilds life. We skype but it's not the same.
Please help.