Fear - Covid will stop me ever seeing family living abroad

It's such a sad time if family are abroad and uncertainty is upsetting. We'll have to travel hopefully in spirit, and hope that travelling safely will happen before too long. The news about vaccines and the treatment that much depletes the effects of Covidwas good news to read this morning. It's all about attitude isn't it? I try very hard to remember I am lucky to be alive and well, and hope to see my dear family soon. I can't allow myself to slide into negative thougths as a poor attitude will destroy me and not help those around me now.

I totally understand how you feel. We live overseas, and most of our family live in the UK, but our DS, DiL & GC live in yet another country. Like everyone else, we have absolutely no idea when travel restrictions will be lifted, or when it will be safe for us all to get to see each other again. It deeply saddens me when I think about the situation we are in, so I do try to make a determined effort to push it to the back on my mind, otherwise I'd go crazy, and we make the most of regular video calls. Obviously, it's not ideal, and far from what I want, but there are so many of us in the same situation. I think we should all just try to be thankful that our families are safe and healthy, and hopefully, in the not too distant future, we can all look forward to happy reunions.

Yes, it's really hard. I have my daughter and family living in another country and my son in a different country. Some days I feel very sad and lonely, wondering when I might be able to see them again especially as I lost my husband last year. I really miss my grandchildren. There is a small light at the end of the tunnel in that there was some good news re a vaccine which is being trialled in Oxford and there are talks of some doses being available as soon as September. We just have to be strong and every day we get through is a day nearer to seeing them.

Hi I have just read your letter and I empathise, I have just seen my grandson enjoying his fourth birthday in Canada. It hurts, especially this year when we can’t visit. Even though we have this wonderful technology it’s not the same. It was made worse by the fact the other grandma is there with them for every birthday, Christmas & holiday.I don’t enjoy the feeling of jealousy but it’s unavoidable. We are only human I long to cuddle my 2 year & 4 year old grandchildren, hopefully we will be able to visit next year.

I am in the same boat. I should have actually been in Canada now staying with my son and his family. All booked a year ago, but then cancelled due to Covid. Last saw them over 18 months ago.

I am now focusing on going this time next year. I can't see that we will be able to before that.

I agree with SueDonim. We've put all thoughts of seeing our DS and family (living in South Korea) before next year. It's not easy, but I do feel more settled (resigned?) about it.

My son and his family are also in the US. We last saw them over a year ago and they should have been coming over to the UK this summer. All canx, of course. I’ve put out of my head any likelihood of seeing them this year and set my sights on next year.

I feel that by looking at it that way, it has removed the current ‘can they, can’t they’ aspect and I feel more settled.

Pelican, you have my sincere sympathy. DH & I are in exactly the same situation as you are: truly I understand how it feels. To keep myself in a positive frame of mind I'm focusing on making a trip next year, and in the meantime, we keep in regular contact via all the modern technology that's available.

Pelican I can understand the waves of sadness which come over you. A lot of it is down to the uncertainty, no one knows what is going to happen in the near future and that makes us panic. My family are in NZ and an Easter trip was sadly cancelled.
Time passes slowly, but also flies by, so I just comfort myself that soon I might look back and this will all just be a tiny blip in the bigger picture.
Hang in there.

My family live in USA, we were supposed to have gone to see them in May. At the moment they cannot travel to UK and we cannot travel to US. I cannot see any of us being able to travel for 12 months.
Thank you for the support and hearing me, acknowledging my fear and sadness. It is reassuring to know that others have same fears and I am not crazy, which at times I feel.

Pelican. My grandchildren are 5000 miles away so I know a little of how you are feeling.
If I am unable to travel in the future they hopefully will come to me or we will find somewhere mid way and meet up there for a holiday.
In the meantime I am so thankful we have the internet so that I can see them regularly. Do you use Skype, FaceTime or WhatsApp?

The ‘want to fix it’ thing - yes it’s hard to find good listeners! There are a lot here on GN though, aren’t there?

It’s entirely rational I think to feel sad and fearful about your situation but we do need to keep perspective and hope that things will change. There’s a lot of amazing work going on to develop a vaccine as well as to learn about this virus and how to cope while we have to endure it.

The chance of a vaccine is very remote Davidhs.
Although there has been a huge amount of research into coronaviruses in past years no vaccine has been found. Why this coronavirus should be any different doesn’t make sense.
We are just going to have to try to stamp it out or live with it.

We will be able to travel to most countries fairly soon, however if you are vulnerable or shielding travel would not be a good idea until next year. There is still going to be virus circulating for some time yet and a second wave is a distinct possibility.
By next year a vaccine is likely to be available so the risk will be low, stay healthy and have patience.

I am sorry.
My Nanna only lives 15 mins away and I am afraid something will happen to her before we can all get back together.
It is a worrying time and you feelings matter.

Recognise that the fear is irrational, and work from that point. Where do your family live?