Do I love my grandson too much ?

Agree with posts above. Enjoy your time now. I’ve had the same thoughts in past months but came to the conclusion that I can get more involved with groups etc once my GC have started school. Post divorce I now think of my life in terms of ‘era’s’. Married life was a long era. Single life was a shorter one. Living with a partner is another one. GCs is another which I know will change over time. They are all equally valid and we learn from each. Just to be aware they end and another will start. Enjoy this one ?

I have three grandsons and I love each one in a slightly different way. Now they are all teenagers, one got through puberty so easily you wouldn't have noticed, a second one was monstrous but I loved him nevertheless and I was the one his dad would ring up and ask me to talk him round. Now he has a girlfriend and is no longer a trouble-maker at home or at school; the third is still pubescent and during the lockdown has become nocturnal! He still likes a cuddle and has a hug like a grizzly bear. The point is that, even though they are no longer cute little toddlers, I've always loved them through each phase of development.

I'm not much into mantras, etc. but this one really resonates;

Today, is the tomorrow, I worried about yesterday - and all is well.

I’m glad I loved my DGS too much before he got to the grunting stage!
I look forward to loving him too much again in, I hope, the not too distant future.

Enjoy them while they young because like own children will soon be gone

Hi.
I started a similar post recently and have just seen yours. The bond is so strong isnt it. But i do think we are in the majority and lots of grans feel the same. Maybe its a matriarchal protectionist role. Im 57 and my own nan died when i was 25. I know our bond was strong although i didnt see so much of her as I'd moved to France we wrote regularly and i saw her a few times a year. She and my grandad came over twice and she was so pleased to tell her friends all about it. I still feel her love today and smile at the silly things we did together. I guess she felt the same for me as i now do for my grandson. So it never leaves you. Enjoy him! Lots of love. Jackie

I totally have those feelings, my first granddaughter moved in with me and my husband with her mum and dad at 1 month because of Covid and they just left after 11 months ? I saw her every day and helped for hours looking after her and more recently playing and we both developed a real huge bond. I am grieving, sad , missing her So ! Way more than missing my son and DIL . I feel like I let myself get too bonded, it hurts so much now , but I couldn’t help it it’s Covid and everything is exaggerated I’m a naturally very maternal person , and worry now whether she will forget me as she’s only 11 months. So an older child will always have a natural fondness for you , even if things change it will be gradual I’m sure ! Enjoy the time you have, it’s a gift , be in each moment and push the future worries away!

Ps .No you don`t love them too much,there`s no such thing as loving too much in my opionion.

Spot on Luckygirl.
My two g/sons used to sleep over and i loved it and made the most of it as i knew only too well the day would come when they would feel too old to stop at mine.
And that day came 18 months ago sadly.
But the memories are wonderfull and they mention quite often how they loved staying with me and all the things we got up to.
The youngest one told me only last week that he thinks i`m the best g/ma in the world which bought tears tomy eyes aswell as his mothers.
So enjoy whilst you can and the memories will always bring a smile to your face.
How sad though your dh won`t have special memories.

Awww no, just enjoy?. He won’t be cute forever, and when this covid is out of the way.....you’ll most likely make more of your life without realising you’re doing it. As Bridgeit points out, Jesus said “let the day’s troubles be sufficient for the day, and don’t focus on tomorrow”. Chances are it won’t be what you expect anyway?.

Stay in the moment ,no one knows what the future holds.You are using up resources of energy trying to foresee the future & plan for it. Don’t let the present time be stolen by this worry.
I am not particularly religious, but I do like & find this phrase from the bible a comfort .:
‘Sufficient unto the day says the Lord’
Enjoy what you have now Best wishes

Notjustaprettyface....I just chanced upon your post, and oh wow! Thats exactly how I’m feeling at the moment. I love my four grandchildren so much. My favourite thing in the world is spending time with them. But I’m so sad at how things are changing. They are now 10,9,8 and 6. Very independent.. And all they seem to want to do is play on their various ‘gadgets’ . Gone are the days when seeing nana was the most exciting thing ever. I now get a quick ‘hi nana’ and its back to the game. They still come for the odd sleepover, but only if I invite them . They never ask if they can come. I know I’m being silly. I have a happy marriage but nothing seems to cheer me up ar the moment.

i don't think being obsessed is the same as loving someone. not that i am saying that is the case here.
i don't know. but being obsessed is not healthy, for either party.

Why would you ever feel wrong or guilty for loving anyone? Especially a child.

I don't know your last post but is it possible that this is coming from feeling happy with your grandchild and feeling unhappy in other parts of your life?

You are obviously a person with lots of love to give an you will find new places to find happiness in the future

Don't worry about how your relationship will be in the future!

Just enjoy him now

One of my grandsons has a personality that marks him out as a real character who will go on to be something special. I'm sorry I don't see him as much as he lives farther away but it's always nice to see him on Skype. Other gran has noticed this too and she will see him at Christmas.

I love my one and only GS and I will miss him dreadfully when he's grown up and I admit I'll feel absolutely lost however much else is in my life. I wish he would be young forever.

I have one grandchild DGS and like you notjustaprettyface he is the absolute light of my life. He will be my only grandchild so I make no apologies for absolutely adoring him and spending as much time as possible looking after him whilst DD works . We have an extraordinary bond that will change as he grows but won’t disappear and I am fully aware that I won’t be such a big part of his life and that’s ok. Because I will have had the most wonderful times with him and will treasure that forever.:My longwinded way of saying no - you can’t love him too much, just enjoy every second

It was quite a while ago, and I'm not sure where it was posted.
I'm a mine of useless, half remembered information, I'm afraid.
There is a search option, but it never seems to work for me.

Hi MissAdventure
Was that post in the grand parenting forum ?
Do you remember roughly when ?
I d love to read it

You can love your grandchildren without them being the be-all and end-all of your life. COVID limitations will end at some point and we will be able to get out and mix again. mean while spend time investigating online what activities are around in your area and what you would enjoy doing. Perhaps having developed an interest you could follow it online during lockdown.

Love every moment you share with him. Of course, he will grow up, but he will never forget this time with you.

Kevins

DGS too
You gotta love 'em

*Callistemon"
Yep, that's how it is now.