Hi again. Thank you for the new comments It means a lot to me.
OceanMama - I agree and I will think if "helpful" in my situation is what I want. I think I support my daughter by not judging her and supporting her by text when she needs it.
Luckygirl - I hear it all the time not to say anything. I have not done that but sometimes I wonder if I should speak to my daughter about it since we have had a close and good r/s. Is it because so many experience estrangement?
FarNorth YES I would have felt a great pressure. Thank you. I don't think that my desparation is affecting my r/s but it is certaintly affecting me.
Chardy - I hope things are going well for you then.
Marymary62 - Thank you. That was an eyeopener. That you failed to see your daughter had a hard time and the consequences to that. Your expectations must have been adjusted very much. Thank you for your kind words and the encouragement that my grandson will love me back in due course.
Madgran77 Thank you for your support. I agree. When I wrote in this forum I really wanted to know what to do about my struggling. Often it seems to be about ME and yes it is because it is about my feelings. I have had SO many warm, thoughtful and honest suggestions here, so that is way more important than the few harsh ones. But some would want to back off. As you say - it is about HOW you say things. Thanks again.
Babyshark - I think it is like you say. I will try to change my expectations.
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