Calling SS on Tuesday

@Hithere I thought she was teaching them proper lessons at the table with proper text books and resources it's only just came to light

How will they catch up? Where with they catch up if she's not made to put them into a school for a proper education

Why not calling SS when they were married?

Calling now that they are no longer together looks like a revenge move.

Do NOT call SS. Do not interfere

If anything, their father, your son, should call himself if he is that worried.

Thanks for all replays

I am in the UK and to make it understandable this unschooling is an actual thing where Children are not taught anything by anybody they decide what they will learn themselves. One of the GC spends every day all day unrestricted until the early hours on the iPad playing Minecraft and this is allowed. They have no routine they just do what ever they want. They do not have additional needs but they are way behind children of their age because they have had no education just this nonsense unschooling.

I have not discussed with DIL, she doesn't listen. I have brought up concerns in the past of them all sleeping on a mattress on the floor together and when GC refused to wear shoes for a long time aged 5. She sees this as ok it's all unschooling apparently.
It's lazy and neglectful but now there's a posh word for failing your children.

You don't say what the mother thinks of him taking the children and moving in with you
nannarose I think you have got this wrong my understanding is the children are still living with their own mother only the son has moved to the posters house and she and son visited recently when she was horrified and testing the children She cannot go about putting the children into schools !!!

My friends son similar age has never had formal teaching he spends hours in the woods and is so interested in nature you just know he will be an ecologist of some kind one day, formal Schooling is not the be all and end all for everyone

DO NOT ring SS granypie it really is nothing to do with you and your son has obviously gone along with it up to moving to your house

I agree with others who say it certainly isn’t your place to contact social services, it doesn’t really sound like it’s anyone’s.

It does sound pretty unconventional, but as long as they’re happy and healthy, they will soon catch up.

I’m unfamiliar with Unschooling, but clearly it’s recognised by other people as an alternative to conventional teaching, not just a matter of your daughter in law not being bothered.

Granypie It is up to your son to deal with the matter of his children’s education, and if he wants custody he can apply to the courts. Unless the children are in imminent danger please do not contact SS tomorrow, that is up to your son and ex partner to sort out.
As has been said children in Europe don’t start school until 7 so don’t worry too much.

I agree it is not your job to call Social Services. I would only do this if I was very worried about their safety.

These children sound happy enough and not being tested on maths or reading at their age sounds like quite a good thing to me.
This sounds more like you are getting ready to do battle with their mother. Don't! you will only make things worse.

This is upsetting for you, but not as bad as you fear.
7 is still young, and enough time to catch up with formal things - I'm sure that they have learned plenty, but probably can't respond in a formal manner. Neither would I worry too much about reading - they will pick it up quickly once helped.
Please don't let the children pick up on your worry (or your anger with their mother) - they will be confused and upset enough without having to worry about your reaction.
Whilst your DS needs to take action to put this right, social services will understand that not all children go to school or are brought up in the same way.
I am assuming you are in the UK?
Un less you have very specific concerns unrelated to their education, I would contact your local school initially. They will have a strong relationship with Children's Services and will involve them if necessary. Most schools are used to taking in children who have been educated differently or in different systems.
Unless there is any suggestion of abuse, it is most likely that SS would want the children to stay with their father and you. They would not wish to remove the children from a loving family environment. They may need to do an assessment to formalise that. Your son should not worry that simply attempting to educate the children differently is not in itself abusive.
You don't say what the mother thinks of him taking the children and moving in with you. However, even if she disagrees, your position will be strengthened by going into school.
Can I also suggest that you no longer 'test' the children? They will want to please you and it may worry them if they can't do what you expect. Given time, I am sure this will get sorted out. I have known children who have had no formal education until this age, and all other things being equal I'm sure they will be fine.
Good luck - this is a lot to be dealing with.

It needs to be your son who intervenes surely?

I wouldn't say I ever home schooled but during the lockdowns in the pandemic ALOT of the lessons were computer based programs I noticed

Oh whoah !!! it’s not your place to call Social services if anyone does that it must be your son BUT as far as I know it’s not an offence to not send children to school and they can be homeschooled in any way the parent sees fit they don’t have to fit into a particular curriculum
You can’t just walk in and take the children to live with you this is not sounding good They won’t be taken into care if they are clean well fed and mentally happy in many countries children don’t even go to school before age of 7 anyway

Are you in the UK? I wouldn't just ring social services, there needs to be some sort of mediation between the parents surely?
What are they supposed to know at 7? do they have other additional needs?