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BGB31 Wed 07-Jul-21 18:01:36

Thanks everyone, my instinct is to let her know.

@Hithere he was on Whatsapp but I don't know anything about his phone or what his Mum allows - although I can't imagine she would allow him to be on it at that time of night.

Hithere Wed 07-Jul-21 17:41:21

How do you know he was online? Which application was he using?
Is his cell open to everything or there are filters restricting the activity for security issues?

Does your dd let him take the cell to bed?
If so, there is nothing you can do.

March Wed 07-Jul-21 15:38:47

Let your daughter know.
It might be her, my DD is 11 and I always check when I know she's asleep (about 11pm actually!)
Just to make sure nothing 'wrong' is going on.

LovelyCuppa Wed 07-Jul-21 15:33:24

Yes, I would let your daughter know, but very carefully as if your grandson doesn't want you to know he is online he will find ways of making sure you cant see his status!

Willow500 Wed 07-Jul-21 15:31:58

Your phone or tablet will often show you online even if you're in bed asleep at the time. Facebook does this - you have to physically log out of some apps or turn the device off in order to 'disappear'.

You could mention that you'd seen his phone appeared to be online to his mum or ask him if he'd remembered to log out.

MerylStreep Wed 07-Jul-21 15:28:21

The problem is: it’s not the time, it’s who he’s talking to.
Some years ago my granddaughter would use my phone ( before she got her own) i found stuff I know wasn’t suitable.
I told my daughter. It’s better that the parents know.

Tizliz Wed 07-Jul-21 15:25:57

Quite a few years ago my grand daughter fell sleep whilst on her mobile to her friend, the bill was horrendous.

I would tell my daughter but only you know what your relationship is like with her.

MissAdventure Wed 07-Jul-21 15:25:06

I would either have a word with your grandson, or cut out the middle man and tell his mum.
What she does with that info is up to her, but she needs to know, I think.

BGB31 Wed 07-Jul-21 15:20:57

Should I say anything to my daughter?

I noticed that my 11 year old Grandson was online (on his phone) last night at about 11pm.

Shall I mention it to his mum? He certainly goes to bed much earlier than that and I'm concerned she doesn't know he's using his phone at that time.

I'm reluctant to interfere though....

Any thoughts?