Too much choice for the grandchildren?

Societies attitudes change with the times, I cooked the meals and they ate them, they didn’t make a fuss about things, always much to busy and it was not an issue, obviously puberty kicks in and everything changed, by today’s standards I must have been quite strict although I never hit them or punished, it was the look, which I understand still works, tell them once the next time it’s a problem and I do think they are happier with rules and safe boundaries.