Grandson angel. Now teen devil!

Gosh, what an awful situation but one sadly far more common than you think. Retired TA here and what works within a school is a paper trail so emails subject headed " safeguarding BoB Davies ( obviously his own name ) and never give up. I'd explain that situation in writing to the school and copy in one of the school governor's.
Not only did I see a lot of this which then creates a meeting etc, I have had social workers / us TA'sand Senc and head if year etc attend these meetings and a team of professionals then is aware and pieces of the puzzle begin to be observed if that makes sense and sometimes the pupil is lucky enough for a professional to fit the pieces together with the right knowledge.

I'm sorry to hear of your problematic grandson Flower61 so difficult to deal with.
A word of hope for you, my grandson went through a dreadful stage like this only verbal abuse and general bad behaviour. He is now 27 engaged, buying a house and in a steady job. Fingers crossed your grandson comes good as well.

I know this is the last thing most of us would want to do with our own family but, if he assaults someone he should be reported.

He needs help now, not in 2 years and it may be the only way to keep him and his family safe.

Please don't try to wrestle scissors off him, one of you could have been seriously hurt. If his mum can't cope with him, making him face the consequences of that sort of behaviour might be the only way forward. He may be fast tracked to counselling, cognitive behaviour therapy or anger management and it could really help him even if it hurts to do

This is a serious situation and for what ever reason your daughter is not addressing the problem. This is far worse than " just getting over excited" I do hope you can find the right time to speak with your daughter. Your GS need professional help, sooner rather than later! He pushed you and you were lucky not to be hurt , clearly he is very angry and there will be reasons for that - although he may not be aware himself of those reasons. Rude and arrogant to his Grandfather too! My GS is 15 and also very tall , if he did that to me I would most definitely speak to his parents and encourage them to seek help - GP would be the first port of call. I fear this will escalate if not dealt with very soon . For his sake and the whole family this must be addressed. Good luck !

Flower61 I m not going to say never have him in your house because I wouldn’t follow that advice myself …. he does needs help though
There is a reason he is so angry and it may well be linked with what he’s seen and heard throughout the ‘failed relationships’ or it may be the difficulties he’s had with a half brother with ADHD whatever it is he needs someone to talk it through with
A teenager with anger problems is usually a very frightened teen with his world out of control
Of course you are worried it’s horrible because I m sure you love him to bits and are really upset
Could drugs be involved ? Could he be being bullied which he then brings home a classic man hits wife, wife slaps kid, kid kicks the cat …could he have ever been abused
Unfortunately only your daughter can get him the help he needs and she doesn’t seem bothered but maybe you can find some phone numbers for her There are charity counselling groups which may not have such a long waiting list as the NHS Do you have a male family member (uncle or older cousin?) who could have a man to man talk to him without getting angry
Something is making him frightened and out of control I really really feel for you but I feel for him too

Thank you all so much for your comments. I really appreciate them.

Flower61
Does your daughter check his online activity?
Does she know who he’s mixing with outside the home?
Is there any suspicion of drugs, watching pornography.
All these issues are open to teenage boys and girls now.

That is scary because if he does that to you what on earth is he doing to his mother? He needs help and urgently, too. Could his mum speak to a counsellor, maybe not social services but someone private ?

He is 6ft and dangerous, do not have him in your house. Everyone talks about his mental health, but that does not excuse bad behaviour in your house. He needs help.
You need to feel safe in your home.
I hope this situation gets better for everyone.

We have the same problem, although our DGS is a bit older than that.He is not violent to us, just to his parents.
I am assuming that he has MH problems anyway? If so, there is little you can do except to talk to the boy when he is in a calm mood and explain that you won’t be able to have him to visit if he ever behaves in this way to you, either yelling insults at you or pushing you.If he doesn’t care about never visiting again then he won’t be bothered, but if that would affect him then he may ( may!) not do it again.
Will he talk to you about why he has become this way?
My DGS won’t, but he has autism and just clams up about it or becomes angry.It’s a real problem, but as these boys become tall and strong, both you and your DD will have to involve Social Services if it continues.Having said that, they haven’t been at all helpful in the case of my DGS, but she must try.
If he hurts her or you then you can call the police, as sometimes a talking to from them sobers them up.Good luck.

Do not have him in your house again, seriously.
There were three adults there and he attacked you; he is dangerous.
Your daughter must organise help for him; you have not got the authority to do it.
Horrible situation.