Super Fun Grandad v Boring Granny

Thank you Grandmadinosaur and Bree16. Yes...just enjoy Bree. Relationships go back and forth anyway, as the children change ages. All the best.

Congratulations DiscoDancer ? ?

Thanks to everyone for taking the time out to reply - loads of great suggestions which I will be trying out - just need to prise them away from grandad now.

Playing cards was my gran’s thing with all her GC. Started with snap and pairs and as we got older she taught us rummy and gin and all sorts of games. Betting for smarties when we were older as well ??

Maybe think fo something you enjoy that can grow as the children do (like cards) and that could be your thing OP.

We all played cards with gran for the rest of her days - even when her mind wasn’t the sharpest she still loved a game of snap from her sick bed!!

Congratulations on your new grandson Discodancer

In my experience it’s not because of being a boy.
I have one grandson and yes he loves and plays rough and tumble etc with grandad. However him and me also have a great relationship. So much so that in his nursery leaving book he had to write in who his best friends were. It included 3 of his friends and me!! I was so touched. We have spent time with him once a week since a small baby. We have taken him out to places ie park,theatre, seaside, picnics, museums etc as well as things like baking, reading and shown him so many things.
I’d say just get stuck in and play with them, talk to them. I always say you reap what you sew.
Enjoy them they won’t be small forever.

It might be a bit soon for the little one but have you considered making little cakes and getting the 4 year old to help ice and decorate them? Or roll out some cookie dough, both children could use a pastry cutter under supervision.

Make some potato stamps, get some washable poster paints and all of you have fun making pictures.

Child's play doesn't have to be boystrous all the time and Grandpa should acknowledge this too so maybe get him to put on a baking pinny too.

Thank you rafichagran and 3dognight

Quiet cuddles and reading a book to them.

Ps he didn’t have a granddad and his dad died so I had to be the daft one

I used to play football with my grandson out in the ally and on the beach I ve got a photo of me on his little bike legs out coming down a hill
Get down and be silly with them it’s not only grandads that can have fun

Hello Bree16 it’s just the same here my 2 DGS both love grandad to bits .and he’s the one they love to play with .as he does all the things your hubby does with them.
But I’m the one they come to if they need a hug or aren’t feeling well .or if they are hungry!! Lol
Also do colouring and play board games .make cup cakes , days out together, going to the park
Just relax enjoy your boys and have fun

How lovely disco dancer, congratulations too. I wouldn’t mind another gc, but it won’t happen now.

Congratulations Discodancer

What do you enjoy doing? Cooking? Art? Gardening? Sewing? Computing?...Whatever it is, you can create Grandma time through introducing them to your hobby/interests in an age appropriate way. I do watercolours and I love cooking and reading. Very much developed these as my "fun with Nanny" activities and my grandchildren who are now 9 and 7 love it!! And over the years have developed their skills in all those areas

Ah, but there has to be some quiet time when you sit down with a book or a toy to explore and they use their minds while their bodies take a rest. Maybe grandad can sit in the kitchen with a cool drink after all that exertion while you have some quality time with them.

I used to babysit some friends’ boys who were that age. We’d play Where’s Wally before bedtime making up stories about the pictures he was hiding in. Dad was football mad as they have grown up to be. We used to have a lot to say about Willy’s red and white stripey jumper and bobble hat!

I think it’s because they’re boys. I have five grandsons, one just born this morning ?, and three granddaughters. The grandsons definitely veer towards my husband, but the girls don’t. Try not to worry. Just be you, and let your husband be him. If you try to copy, they’ll sense it, and it may just look weird. Do you think there could be any more grandchildren? Maybe you’ll get a granddaughter.