Feel so useless and hopeless

Oh my goodness what an awful thing to go through. What disgraceful parents they are. It’s good you’ve got it off your chest. I’m so sorry for you. I don’t think there’s any advice I can give.
I know grandparents who had to take on their grandson as mum abandoned him with them and knew grandparents who had three dumped on them to bring up. They do the job because they can give the children a better life. But it’s hard and I just want to say I admire you.

I’m so very sorry. You must be exhausted. I have no experience of this sort of thing but you paint a very clear picture of two uncaring and unsuitable parents. People who have the experience to give you good advice will come along. My only suggestion is to call the police again to chase up the referral to ss.
You have my sympathy.?

This is a really difficult situation for you to be in and I admire you for taking responsibility for your dgd, yes it’s going to be tough but always remind yourself that you are doing the best you can. Maybe get in touch with the police again and ask for a update regarding the concerns that you have. SS can be a bit slow to get involved unfortunately which isn’t helpful. Your daughter needs to take a hair test because she won’t pass that if she’s recently been taking drugs.

Try to shake off the feelings of being useless and hopeless. You are far from that because you are doing a wonderful thing for your granddaughter by giving her a safe and secure environment. The fact that she is being aggressive to you indicates to me that she is expressing her anxiety and also possibly copying behaviour that she has seen or even experienced. Your daughter has in effect abandoned her daughter if she has made no attempt to collect her from your home. I don’t know how these things work but you may have to formalise things by involving social services who hopefully can advise you and provide some respite care for your Granddaughter to give you a break. I think I would keep a record of events in case you have to formally apply for care of your granddaughter. If your daughter continues to leave her daughter with you I doubt if she is entitled to claim child benefit for her and any other benefits she is in receipt of. I am surprised that you haven’t been able to contact social services because there are lots of issues and perhaps you should approach Citizens’ Advice if you can find time to do this. How does your daughter’s father feel about her living with him and have you spoken to him about it?

Definitely not useless Madammimim you are caring for your granddaughter under very difficult circumstances well done.
I think you have to put the child 's welfare above all else even your daughter and that is hard. I agree with Jane43 keep a record of events and keep plugging away at Social Care to get some support. Talk to your GP surgery about support available for you and your granddaughter. I wish you well it's a very difficult situation for you.

You must be at your wit's end and worn out. What terrible, self-indulgent people your daughter and her bloke are. Thank goodness the child has got you - you are very far from hopeless and useless. You're the only stable person in your grandchild's life.

Please, ring SS, ask for an urgent referral. The parents of the poor kid don't deserve to have her at all.

Very very difficult situation for you but you are doing the right thing for your granddaughter
You need help though so yes you have to keep asking and take what ever help you can find
So 24 hours after taking baby back to her mum I have her again did you get asked by them to have the baby back or how did it happen that you got her back ? Because you say they are going to do things to you to get their baby back if doesn’t sound as if they voluntarily gave her to you
Yes the baby does need a routine and I m sure if you have her for any length of time she will get into one She is biting hitting scratching etc because she doesn’t know whether she’s coming or going and she doesn’t know who or where she will be with next she badly needs stability and routine and I m sure things will get better but you have to get it all on a legal level not yes you taking her when they are drunk if you are not able to look after her for age or health reasons then she needs foster parents
Keep ringing SS or your GP

I'm a little confused. You say that you have got your granddaughter again - how did that happen? I would assume that your daughter has asked you to keep her, in which case I don't understand why you're being threatened about what they will do "when they pass the drugs tests". You're not stopping them from seeing their daughter - it is they who are not making the effort.

And who will be administering the drugs tests? They are eye-wateringly expensive, so aren't done lightly.

I think you need to get some advice for yourself and your granddaughter, as it sounds as though she would not be safe if she was just returned to either, or both, parents.

Unfortunately, the referral from the police will have to go through the police system before being made to social services, and will then again have to go through social services' system before any calls are made to you. And actually, because you don't have parental responsibility for your granddaughter, they may not call you - data protection etc etc etc . They may say they need consent from a parent with PR to talk to you.

However, if you were to call them, then they could listen to all your concerns and worries although they may not be able to discuss the child with you - despite you having her in your care - and could then make further enquiries.

You see to be tired like you probably were when raising kids. Good luck

Try ringing NSPCC. That can help with contact to Social Services

Madgran , I think that is sound advice. Madammim, ring the NSPCC and keep ringing till you get help , same with social services ! This is an appalling situation and your GD is the priority. You should not be left with this responsibility! Shout for help loud and often !!!