Hi. I have a brand new 6-month old grandson (first one). Everything has been great so far, the child is the son of one of my boys and her gf. We all get along and the gf is quite nice. However, they insist that if husband and I want to see the child it needs to be at their house. We live 25 miles apart. So far so good, the child was actually too young to travel to see his granparents but now he is 6 months old, the gf is back to work, my son has one month's parental leave and is alone with the child. They live in an apartment in the city and we live in a house with garden and trees by the sea in the outskirt; overall a lot cooler and more pleasant. I think it is a bit unreasonable to hold the child at home breathing car exhaust fumes on their occasional stroll outside instead of fresh clean Ocean air. Even so, we sort of accepted that visits will always be at their home (for I don't know how long?) but I am having second thoughts and quite frankly I am thinking it is such an unreasonable request, at least now that my son is free for a month and he would have all the time in the world to visit (and company huge car, gas paid by the company, all the comfort in the world). I don't want to have to drive 25 miles back and forth every time I want to see the child but I guess there is no other way and it is making me want to see less of them. Although the relationship with my son and gf is very good, there have already been a few incidents that make me fear all will not be rosey down the road. How do we navigate what seem ever increasing restrictions to see the child? Restrictions and problems with visiting us once in a while just seem to be popping up from nowhere. Sorry if this is too long and if English is maybe not perfect, but it is not my first language. Cheers and thank you. M.
