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Husband doesn't want me to look after grandchild once a week

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M0nica Mon 31-Jul-23 17:38:42

Your husband is jealous of our grandchild and the time you give to looking after it.

He is behaving a like a big baby himself. His behaviour reminds me of the way DS, aged 21 months, behaved when his baby sister was born.

He is insecure and afraid that you will love the baby more than you love him. Has he always dictated your life like this with passive aggression (because this is what this behaviour is) and have you always given way to his 'poor little me' act.

I cannot advise you what to do, because any man who behaved like that with me, whether I loved them or not, would get very short shrift.

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Hithere Mon 31-Jul-23 17:30:27

Does your daughter want you to babysit once a week?

I would talk to your dh how to add more items to your daily life and not impacting commitments you both have now

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Su51nan Mon 31-Jul-23 17:22:08

My husband and I both have children from previous relationships. He has 3 grandchildren which we see occasionally and my daughter had just had her first child, my first grandchild.
I retired early from my job 2 years ago and we have been working together for 2 years full time renovating properties.
I want to look after my grandchild once a week but he says this will affect our work and is not happy for me to do it despite me saying i will work an extra day at the weekend.
If I spend more than a few hours a week with my grandchild he says my life revolves around her but I just want to be close to her and want to help my daughter get back to work without it costing a fortune in childcare.
I don't want to have to choose between them but I'm feeling like it may come to that.

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