DIL posh family - advice needed

DaisyAnneReturns

Your opinion JaneJudge. Are you insisting we all share yours?

And another Fun Sponge posting.

Daisy Anne words fail me! I commented on something which happened years ago, I I cannot even remember, who the poster was. However, I have never forgotten that unpleasant post, just as I won't forget yours.
You do not know me, so please do not presume to judge me, on the strength of a single comment.
I cerainly do not have a chip on my shoulder. In fact the chip on both shoders makes me well balanced. 😉

Thank to those who supported me in relation to Daisy Anne's ridiculous comments.

Perhaps not using the word ‘posh’ would be good.

Callistemon21

JaneJudge

Mary doll has never come across as having a chip on her shoulder.

No, she hasn't!

Happy New Year everyone.

The housekeeper has the day orf so I have to go and vacuum the drawing room before our guests arrive.
Does anyone have advice on how I use the dratted machine please?

I’ll ask my butler for you.

This thread has gone from the ridiculous to the plain daft.
Too much “Downton Abbey” on Netflix perhaps!

OP could do well to relax, be herself (but for the sake of family harmony-perhaps consult her son re what to buy for DIL next time! White Company always goes down well)

Too much overthinking and a bit of an inferiority complex - not a happy combination.

JaneJudge

Mary doll has never come across as having a chip on her shoulder.

No, she hasn't!

Happy New Year everyone.

The housekeeper has the day orf so I have to go and vacuum the drawing room before our guests arrive.
Does anyone have advice on how I use the dratted machine please?

Your opinion JaneJudge. Are you insisting we all share yours?

Mary doll has never come across as having a chip on her shoulder.

Marydoll, the "OP" started by describing her DIL and family as "posh" in her title. I haven't introduced it.

I understood your post. However, we only had your report of what you wrote, not the actual post. If your post only contained what you reported on this thread, then the person who replied was, as I said, wrong; you were not using inverted snobbery.

However, you complained that you had been described as an inverted snob on another thread. Your interlocutor is not here to defend themselves (the reason why it is against the rules to have a thread about another thread). In fairness, I suggested that, had you, in your original post, turned your experience against others who did not have it, you may have been guilty of inverted snobbery.

We don't know what was actually said. There are two possibilities. You are complaining because I tried to be fair to both parties, as we had only heard one side.

The poster complaining about the use of the word "drawing room" did not say it was uncommon. I agree. It is. However, that poster described its use as "weird". I asked what other word she suggested the room could be called.

Her post (and yours) did seem to have an angry or unpleasant attitude or way of behaving caused by a belief that one has been treated unfairly in the past. That is the definition of a chip on one's shoulder.

Not to worry Silverberry we’re all Jock Thomson’s bairns as the saying goes, everyone is equal regardless of bank balance. look at Queen Elizabeth’s christmases where she received a jar of home made something or other from Kate and Prince Philip received a whoopee cushion which pleased him enormously.

You’ve nothing to worry about just keep loving your family and don’t leave your dil out.

👍 😊

Happy New Year Joseann!

...to answer sometimes!

Thanks Marydoll.
It's getting too tiresome to a

Sorry. I'm not being drawn into arguments in 2024!!

From here this just looks like one very large emotional chip on your shoulder.
This all getting a bit silly and personal D,A. You appear to have misinterpretated what some of us have posted. (Myself included,)
Drawing room isn't a very common word, which is why some of us find it unusual to hear it used.
A drawing room implies a large house, which would involvetoo much cleaning for me. 😉

But if one exists in your home what else would you call it? You seem to just want to insult people who have large homes - I have never come across anyone calling their only reception room a "drawing room". From here this just looks like one very large emotional chip on your shoulder.

Perhaps you can give us an alternative name for a drawing room that is a drawing room.

DaisyAnneReturns

Joseann

Try Drawing room? I think that's a weird one.

Bog for toilet!

What's wrong with "drawing room" if it is one?

There is nothing wrong with the word. It's weird in the sense that it is unusual and out of the ordinary these days, even for posh people!

The Drawing Room used to be the Withdrawing Room, where the ladies would go after dinner while the gentlemen enjoyed their port and cigars.

Joseann

Try Drawing room? I think that's a weird one.

Bog for toilet!

What's wrong with "drawing room" if it is one?

It is usually poorer people who get all embarrassed around richer people and decide unilaterally and without aany evidence that the wealthier person is looking down on them.

Different groups of people lead different lives and have habits and ways that others will not rcognise. Those in the acadeemic world, some of whom are very poorly paid and insecure have their language and customs. Move in a sporty world and again they will have a culture of their own. The agricultural community can be very inward looking, 'master and man' are united in the same community, drink in the same pubs.

If people are well off yes they will have spending patterns and life styles they take for granted. They are no different to any other group.

Be yourself... do as you feel is right, say what you feel is right
Money can not or should not mould a person, you are who you are, I would say its the person with money who feel compelled to raise to the ranks of pretence and misconception and without coming across with finger pointing at you, J would say that it is allllll in your own mind, like I say be true to yourself be YOU.

💐

Joseann

Try Drawing room? I think that's a weird one.

Bog for toilet!

It was originally a with-drawing room.

I say loo.

SueDonim

Callistemon I recently bought some fabric napkins, thinking they’d be nicer than paper ones. Then it dawned on me that I’d have to launder them so now they’re at the back of a cupboard. I’ve also run out of paper napkins so we’re reduced to kitchen roll. Tbf, it is a posh kitchen roll, not an own brand. It was on BOGOF. 😂

As for houses, one of my son’s friends married an heiress whose family own a castle, one that some of you may well have visited as paying public. I’m sure they don’t need a castle or not one that size, at any rate, but I don’t think son’s friend is embarrassed about it - why should he be?

DH would be happy to iron his inherited linen napkin but he still gets given kitchen roll SueDonim!
😁

Presents are often difficult between parents and adult children. My parents used to buy me a bottle of my favourite perfume and my DH a bottle of expensive single malt (more than we could afford). These were always gratefully received.

As regards my in laws, my DH went to great trouble to buy something that they liked (they collected Staffordshire). We also collected but mid century (in the 70s and 80s). What they gave us showed no thought and was given to the nearest charity shop.

Callistemon I recently bought some fabric napkins, thinking they’d be nicer than paper ones. Then it dawned on me that I’d have to launder them so now they’re at the back of a cupboard. I’ve also run out of paper napkins so we’re reduced to kitchen roll. Tbf, it is a posh kitchen roll, not an own brand. It was on BOGOF. 😂

As for houses, one of my son’s friends married an heiress whose family own a castle, one that some of you may well have visited as paying public. I’m sure they don’t need a castle or not one that size, at any rate, but I don’t think son’s friend is embarrassed about it - why should he be?