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University student arriving at exams without the right equipment, one even forgot his pen

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Cambsnan Thu 02-May-24 15:56:04

If you have adult grandchildren who are not very organised how about gifting them an exam pack. Clear pencil case with basic pens, ruler, pencils and what ever sort of calculator they need for their exams. I spent the last 2 weeks invigilating university exams where young people turned up late, in the wrong place, without basic equipment, without tissues in hay fever season, no bottle of water and needing the toilet five minutes into an exam. They are babies in adult bodies!

OldFrill Thu 02-May-24 15:59:31

Send them away, they won't learn if you spoon-feed them.

Newatthis Thu 02-May-24 16:07:56

Leaving an exam room 5 minutes into the exam - is that allowed? Sadly some young students are a bit spoon fed these days but not all. I find many more ‘savvy’ than I ever was at that age.

Cabbie21 Thu 02-May-24 16:18:50

My grandchildren went to schools where all this was practised from Year 9 or 10, so they knew the routine.
Certainly for GCSE and A levels candidates cannot leave before a certain time, as they could communicate with a late candidate. It is arranged so there can be no overlap. Not sure about university rules. I guess each has its own rules.
When I was at school we were not allowed to leave an exam at all. I was really pleased to find I could walk out at uni once I’d finished and checked.
It is time that students grew up. My son is a university lecturer and is far from happy with the attitudes and behaviour of some undergraduates.

Hithere Thu 02-May-24 16:20:23

How about letting them fail so they learn from their mistakes?

Helicopter grandparenting is not good

Germanshepherdsmum Thu 02-May-24 16:27:44

They will never learn to be responsible for themselves if you give them ‘exam packs’. They are old enough to know what they will need and to remember to take everything with them. You do them no favours by babying them. They have to stand on their own two feet if they are to succeed in life. If you experienced what you did with undergraduates, Lord help them when they are faced with getting a job. They are only ‘babies in adult bodies’ if you enable it.

Aveline Thu 02-May-24 16:28:19

They'll never learn if spoon fed. If they turn up unprepared then tough. They'll be prepared next time!

Theexwife Thu 02-May-24 16:35:15

Part of sitting an exam is being prepared, having the correct equipment is part of that.

Children are starting school not toilet trained it seems from what you say they still havent mastered it as a late teen if they cannot even plan when to go.

Germanshepherdsmum Thu 02-May-24 16:37:04

Perhaps grandparents should be turning up to see their GC just before each university exam and asking ‘Have you been?’.

Oldnproud Thu 02-May-24 16:56:05

Most of those are inexcusable, but exam nerves can lead to bowel problems and there is not a lot one can do to prevent that if it strikes once the exam has begun. The alternative to leaving the room could be incredibly unpleasant for every single person in the room.

Astitchintime Thu 02-May-24 17:01:51

All brains and no common sense springs to mind. hmm

Oopsadaisy1 Thu 02-May-24 17:11:20

All a bit harsh, how about sympathising with someone with Exam nerves, who panics and just forgets?

I’m sure none of them do it on purpose.

Germanshepherdsmum Thu 02-May-24 17:17:01

That’s no good in real life.

Aveline Thu 02-May-24 17:21:38

How in earth did we all manage? Yet somehow we did. We prepared and planned and took responsibility for ourselves.

Germanshepherdsmum Thu 02-May-24 17:23:09

Exactly.

MayBee70 Thu 02-May-24 17:47:16

Oldnproud

Most of those are inexcusable, but exam nerves can lead to bowel problems and there is not a lot one can do to prevent that if it strikes once the exam has begun. The alternative to leaving the room could be incredibly unpleasant for every single person in the room.

I was well into middle age before I learned to take Imodium before any stressful situation; I wish someone had broached that subject with me when I was a lot younger, it probably would have made quite a difference to many years of my life!

Cossy Thu 02-May-24 18:19:27

No problem with using the loo, but for goodness sake these young people must be at least 18 and probably older, if they cannot remember their pencil etc what hope is there 😂😂😂😂

I remember my son in his first year of Uni and in halls and he was horrified at the number of his fellow students who couldn’t iron, cook or use the washing machine!

Cossy Thu 02-May-24 18:20:10

Germanshepherdsmum

Perhaps grandparents should be turning up to see their GC just before each university exam and asking ‘Have you been?’.

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

NotSpaghetti Thu 02-May-24 18:34:17

There is usually a separate space for students who are struggling with the setting of a regular exam.

This has been the case for decades.
I was 9 months pregnant, uncomfortable and "overdue" during my finals and sat them in a side room with maybe 20 others. One had a parent die and was really struggling.
We had easy access to a loo, boxes of tissues and a jug of water - and three staff members invigilating so if we needed to leave we could be escorted to the aforementioned loo or, if we couldn't complete, to the nearby common room till the exams were over.

Oldnproud Thu 02-May-24 18:34:46

MayBee70

Oldnproud

Most of those are inexcusable, but exam nerves can lead to bowel problems and there is not a lot one can do to prevent that if it strikes once the exam has begun. The alternative to leaving the room could be incredibly unpleasant for every single person in the room.

I was well into middle age before I learned to take Imodium before any stressful situation; I wish someone had broached that subject with me when I was a lot younger, it probably would have made quite a difference to many years of my life!

That is quite sad, MayBee. 😔

SueDonim Thu 02-May-24 19:36:48

My son is a professor at an American uni. He says there’s been a big change in their intake of undergrad students since the pandemic. The recent intakes have been much less prepared for life at university, more disorganised and are less resilient when it comes to perceived setbacks. The effects of the pandemic are still being felt far and wide. sad

valdavi Thu 02-May-24 19:47:26

I didn't actually manage. I used to forget things, & once I turned up to an exam I had to pass (one chance only), 15 minutes late & very out-of-breath because I went to the wrong venue. Not enough fingers to count the number of times I forgot to put my name on papers. For some reason I became more organised (relatively speaking) once I got into work. People were always pretty accommodating & I was never sent out or failed because of being scatty.

Germanshepherdsmum Thu 02-May-24 20:34:36

And your excuse was … ?

Cold Thu 02-May-24 21:03:41

Disorganized students will always be disorganized.

I must be around 35 years ago that I invigilated exams for one of the major Accountancy Institutes. I gave my usual spiel about being the XYZ Accountancy institute paper on Financial and Management Accounting, that they should check the front page of the exam paper carefully to make sure they understood the requirements of the paper etc etc etc ....

So almost 30 minutes in a guy at the back raises his hand - I go to him to check what the issue is to find him staring, mystified, at the paper.
"I don't understand this" he said
"I'm sorry?" I said
"I'm doing grade 3 auto mechanics, but I can't see my questions"
"This is XYZ Accountancy Institute's Part 2 exam in Financial and Management Accounting"

It transpired that he was supposed to be in a different exam room 2 floors above - but the fact he sat and stared at a paper asking him to prepare cash budgets and balance sheets, while looking for questions on car mechanics made me wonder how on the ball he was ....

Deedaa Thu 02-May-24 21:15:41

DD was complaining about her students a couple of days ago. She said all they talk about is "Work/life balance", "Mental Health", and their vegan dietary requirements, "When I was a student we just got on with the work". She says they arrive late in the morning, then they can't do anything without having a coffee, by which time it's almost lunchtime. Then they are surprised because they haven't got anything done. Her professor longs to introduce them to his wife who is doing a night shift at a hospital where she finds herself the only doctor to look after 70 patients.