Second Marriage & Grandchildren

He his being childish and unfair! Don't allow him to dictate your relationship with GC.

He sounds like a naughty little boy who wants his Mummy all to himself. Hopefully he will change- does he have children himself ? Bear with it, it is early days and he hasn’t ‘met’ the little one yet.

I can sympathise so much. My OH gets really confused why his mates DGC get in the way of the boys social events. I keep telling him if mine lived near enough I would be doing the same, doing the school run, taking to after school activities, child minding helping with the garden etc. It really saddens me that I am too far away to see them more than 4 x a year. I plan to take us all on holiday next year. As my parents did with me and my kids, it will be so much fun. If DOH isn't up for it he can say at home on his own. In fact that is how I would prefer it if I'm honest.

I just think he has had you all to himself so far and doesn't want to lose it.
As the family grows yes compromises of all sorts might have to be made!

In a similar situation to you and my grandchildren took ages to work out that my DH was not actually related. As far as they are concerned he's their grandad and they are his grandchildren. I don't see why you should hide your feelings. I'm guessing that maybe he's a bit jealous.

I got terribly excited when we knew that our DS and DDiL were expecting their first baby. This was 18 years ago.
I can remember starting to knit and to acquire duplicate equipment in case they came to stay!

I don't recall DH bring nearly so obsessed. He was a lovely grandpa when the time came.

What I'm saying is maybe your DH isn't jealous, he just thinks you are getting over excited.

Congratulations. I hope everything goes well.

Thank you for replies, they made me smile, nice to hear from straight talking people. My Daughter in law (to be) mother is just as excited, she was saying that maybe we could all go on holiday in the future etc….i told my husband and he said no way, which is fine as I would go anyway. I think we work very well as a couple but not so good as a complete family as compromises have to be made.

Your husband sounds as though he is jealous of the new baby - which is ridiculous. Don't let his unreasonable behaviour stop you from being excited at the new baby's arrival. Nip this in the bud. He needs to grow up.

At the ages all your children are there are quite likely to be more babies in the not too distant future, from his side as well.
It'll be interesting to see how he reacts then... 🤔

Don’t allow him to dampen your enthusiasm he sounds like a spoilt jealous man and the baby hasn’t arrived yet. It’s enough to make you go right off him if it was me I would be telling him to grow up or move to the coast on his own.

I wouldn’t dampen down my enthusiasm, he is being unreasonably petty to not let you enjoy the thought of your new Grandchild, he should be pleased for you, not act like a jealous idiot.

I hope you will have the whole family and baby to stay with you so that you can enjoy the experience without your husband acting up and trying to control you.