Buying a first bra

It's ok, Macadia, don't worry.

If only her mother was on the scene, my life would be a lot easier tbh!

petra

Macadia

Everyone is talking about their daughters first bra. Where is the mum in this OP ? I would be horrified if my own mum took my own daughter for her first bra and fitting without my permission.

The OP said the Mother isn’t on the scene. You don’t need to know anything else, it’s private.

Okay Petra.
Sorry, Supernana1
It's none of my business.

M&S in UK

A decent 'Department Store' is a good start.

Thank you all for your messages. I'll take her to M&S as soon as school hols start.

She needs them mainly to hide her nipples, especially since she's going into High School in September and will probably need to change for PE. She's not at all self-conscious with us, but she would be with other girls.

Thanks again to you all.

John Lewis are good but Bravissimo fitters are usually young and really good. They don't use tape measures as different makes fit differently plus they have lovely bra selection

Macadia

Everyone is talking about their daughters first bra. Where is the mum in this OP ? I would be horrified if my own mum took my own daughter for her first bra and fitting without my permission.

The OP said the Mother isn’t on the scene. You don’t need to know anything else, it’s private.

Everyone is talking about their daughters first bra. Where is the mum in this OP ? I would be horrified if my own mum took my own daughter for her first bra and fitting without my permission.

I was lucky in that my mother considered "foundation garments" to be the most important clothing. "Get that right and you can wear anything"...

I know that's obviously wrong - even with my "perfect" bras there are some things I could never wear!

My 3 girls are adults now ,and I have 3 GDs who will need a bra one day.
I totally recommend taking her for a proper measure.
I used the measuring service in Hammonds but I am sure other services are as good.
I could never have fitted each daughter. They were all so different.
It was a lovely and special experience each time.
Mum and daughter time , lovely sensitive lady to help and a pretty first bra which fitted properly.
I did this because I have upsetting memories of my first bra.
My Mum had a chronic illness.
She could not take me anywhere.
She asked my aunt, who worked in a department store to bring me a bra.
She brought an old fashioned, white cotton bra which fitted round my back but the cups were far too big.
The solution?
Fold the cups over, oversew and trim.
Results? Hideous , uncomfortable garment that didn't fit , showed lumps under my clothes and resulted in making me ( an already shy and clumsy teenager) even more a figure of fun in the changing rooms and at Guide camp that year .
I am 68 ... the memories still burn.
Even if she resists this my advice is to persist.
It's so worth it in the end !

grandtanteJE65

Don't go to a department store-find a shop that only sells lingerie and make an occasion of her first bra. She does need to be properly measured under her breasts and across the highest point of them for a bra to fit properly.

It seems that far too many women have no idea what size and style of bra suits them.

Why go through life wearing an uncomfortable and unflattering bra?

Later on your granddaughter will be grateful that you took the trouble to find the correct style and size. Tell her now, that clothes look so much better worn over the right underwear, and that most men in this world look first at a woman's figure and then at her face!

You might like to add that amongst straight men there are two kinds - the ones who look first at a girl or woman's bosom, and those who look first at her bottom- this advice will stand her in good stead later too, so start looking for the jeans that do most for her rear end! Mine has always looked best in Levi's 501!

Are you for real?!
You recommend telling a teenage girl she needs to show off her boobs or her rear so she can attract a man!!? Are we back in the dark ages?

Don't go to a department store-find a shop that only sells lingerie and make an occasion of her first bra. She does need to be properly measured under her breasts and across the highest point of them for a bra to fit properly.

It seems that far too many women have no idea what size and style of bra suits them.

Why go through life wearing an uncomfortable and unflattering bra?

Later on your granddaughter will be grateful that you took the trouble to find the correct style and size. Tell her now, that clothes look so much better worn over the right underwear, and that most men in this world look first at a woman's figure and then at her face!

You might like to add that amongst straight men there are two kinds - the ones who look first at a girl or woman's bosom, and those who look first at her bottom- this advice will stand her in good stead later too, so start looking for the jeans that do most for her rear end! Mine has always looked best in Levi's 501!

Do you have permission from her parents to do this?

I've had fittings both at M & S and John Lewis. M & S were fine but John Lewis more so, although the bras I chose were more expensive and that could be why they were a great fit.

I got one for my 13 year old granddaughter from Marks. She was very happy, slightly padded and comfortable size 32A

M & S have a big range of first bras called 'Angel' which are very good. Your granddaughter could have a look online first to see whether there are any that are 'cool'.

John Lewis in London did excellent bra fitting for me recently.

Yes def M and S…Well done for being there for Your Grand-daughter 🩷

i don't think you should suggest measuring her for this.
unless she asks you to, which is unlikely.
i'd leave it to the professionals.
maybe book M&S appt, give her a budget and hover at a discreet distance.
what age is she.

Rigby and Pellet, yes expensive but they measure by eye which might feel better for a young lass, or Bravissimo
If she starts or knowing what a well fitting bra is supposed to feel like it will stand her in good stead for the years to come
And the boob or bust method is worth trying

I wondered if there are any younger women in her family who might help her? Or perhaps the mother of one of her friends?
I've looked online and John Lewis might be a good bet as I think that they do bra fittings too.

It is so important to get the right bra, that I would highly recommend you have her fitted properly, or she will hate wearing a bra forever. M&S have lovely first bras. I am tiny and wear them myself with an extender as this is how I get the best fit. They are plain and reasonably priced. Remember she will grow quickly and will need to be re-fitted regularly. Unless she is like me who only had a decent bust when I was pregnant.

Like others here, I can highly recommend M&S. I prebooked an appointment and when there, quietly explained that my DGD is autistic and might flap a little. The lady was very understanding and handled it all very sensitively. My DGD was delighted with the pretty bras on offer and we came away with several. They might not be the cheapest option but the service (and the bras!) were superb!

My GD also got her first bras from M&S, although her mum measured her first. She didn't really need one but wanted one as 'all the other girls' in the changing room at school had them. She insisted on padded version so as not to show nipples.

Peller🤦