Feeling hurt

It sounds perfectly normal to me.
Babies are used to getting their needs met, until about that age, when they may have to wait, or not get everything they want.

So they're cross.

Hi, I have a beautiful grand daughter who is just 9 months old.she has just started to have a temper tantrum if she is denied something she wants. Gets red on the face and clenched her fists. Seems very young to be doing this.99% of the time she is a very smiley happy baby. Any one else experience this,? Thank you

Thanks Missadventure. I hope so too.

Hopefully he'll grow out of it, penelopejean.

Probably all the faster if he sees that his words have absolutely no effect. (At least on the surface)
My older grandson much preferred his other nan to me (she spoilt him rotten, let him win at everything, and is very well off, into the bargain!)

Misadventure. Yes my daughter does know and always tells him that is not a nice way to talk to me. It doesn't seem to change anything unfortunately. He definitely prefers to be with the men in the family and of course my daughter. I do get a bit upset(quietly) though.

I see this thread is from September so wondering how things are Babs03

My 5 yr old grandson prefers my DH he is much more fun than me and is brilliant at technic Lego with him and more boisterous games.

For the last two years my littlest GC spend 40% of time living with daddy and 60% my daughter and I have noticed when with mummy they are so clingy to her and on school pick up if we are there together I am ignored. I know it is because they struggle with separation anxiety from mummy and understand but I feel sad that my relationship with them has changed. They no longer want sleepovers with us which they previously loved. . I am grateful tho for being in their lives and my little grandson said the other day I have 3 houses gran, mummy’s, daddy’s and yours and both are loving to DH and I but circumstances have changed the balance of things.

Does your daughter know he speaks to you like that?

I am currently going through s similar problem with my only grandchild a 5 year old boy. He has been quite ill with asthma during his early years and has spent a lot of time with his mum (my daughter) but is thankfully very well now. I am 76 and not likely to have any more grand children.
My grandson will pull faces at me and deliberately exclude me from any games he plays by saying Not you! When collecting him from school for the first time he said he didn't want to hold my hand as I was wrinkled! I am! but it was a bit of a shock to be told to my face! He always prefers his grandpa which is lovely but don't really understand. It is undermining my confidence to be frank although I try to brush it off as not bothering me. I am just hoping he will grow out of it before I am not around anymore.........

Apparently I keep using the wrong language around my sons families. The last incident was that I called the son and 1 year old granddaughter doppy apparently. I don't remember doing this and there is no malice intended. It's language and sayings that I was brought up on which now aren't appropriate. I now feel that I want to keep away from them incase I cause offence,

Youngest grandchild, a girl nearly 2, prefers grandpa. I am tolerated, unless......the young lady needs a cuddle, a hug, to be held. Seems I do these things better than grandpa. Recently she even started naming me, a privilege. I think we'll be fine 😊

Children definitely have a different view on relationships then I think we do. My grandchildren adored my husband, but when he died last year and my son told his children the youngest one just said “that’s very sad” then went off to play. I’m sure they miss him but children live for today .

This really is just children -🥰😳😂 please don’t feel hurt - you probably provide all the basics and Grandpa may seem a little more interesting- temporarily!! - wait till grumpy Grandpa appears on the scene. Children can be fickle creatures- it absolutely doesn’t mean that he loves anyone more than another. Also don’t stress about it - good advice that- just stay relaxed, calm and keep a sense of humour about children’s ups and downs. Good luck!! X

Not always but I think young children often veer towards the men. Maybe they seem stronger I don’t know. When my children were young they always wanted to sit by Daddy when we were out somewhere. It used to hurt but we laugh about it now and in any case they can’t remember.

Well am busy with birthday plans for my grandsons birthday. Have baked the cake, just need to decorate and will be busy helping with the food and drinks on the day. Is my grandsons day so am totally happy with him keeping me on the sidelines, though am hoping to grab a kiss at some point. Also are other grandchildren there who will happily spend time with me.
Glad I have got things in perspective now x

Definitely hang on. Just be yourself and show him the same attention even if rebuffed. Our first granddaughter - now 14 - was obsessed with me and rebuffed her grandad which made me feel awful but he was patience personified and it paid off as she got older (4/5) when we each had different things to offer. Meanwhile our younger granddaughter (4) is obsessed with her grandad which leaves me on the sidelines but experience tells me it will right itself in it’s own time and I can’t force it. Children are like pet dogs and cats, they come to you when they’re ready and you can’t really alter that or speed it up.

I have 7 Grandchildren & one always wanted Grandpa & never me,but it was really nice for my husband he was so happy,over the years it has changed & now she talks about going to Grandma’s house,it’s just a faze

I’ve always been below Aunty and cousins in the pecking order, until it comes to food! Lol but my oldest DGS now 11, hugs me and says I love you Nanny and it’s all worth it. Xx

My grandson went through a phase like this and it does hurt, but it will pass. We made cakes, which he then got to eat and he started wanting to cook with me and then it gradually blossomed into other things. Hang on in there!

So many cases just like mine, makes me feel much better, and perhaps it’s true whilst some of us grans do all the changing and cleaning and feeding, grandpas tend to weigh in afterwards with lots of fun games and silliness whereas we are already shattered. Thanx for straightening this out.

It will get better. One of my grandsons was exactly like this when he was 2 and it lasted at least a year. He would sometimes tell me he didn’t love me, he only loved Grandad. He’s just turned 12 now and is so different. He not only loves me, he wants to do things with me, loves that his hair is curly like mine (who wants to look like their Nana??) and is so loving. He’s been like this for the last few years and we laugh about how mean he was back then. It’s a phase and like all phases it will pass. Just keep being yourself and he’ll come around.

I look after my grandchildren quite a lot and take them to school most days. It's always my husband that they call for as they come through the front door, but I'm Nanny who produces food and is stricter than Grandpa or Mummy.

Not just with Grandparents! Aunties and Uncles too… I’ve always bought the gifts, cards and made the effort to visit … but it’s always my husband they ask for!! Perhaps it’s because men don’t try too hard with kids!!

We had the same with our grandson! He adored my DH, he tolerated me 😂😂

Hang on in there, all will be alright

We had a little grandson who was just like this ie he preferred granddad to me. He is now about to start secondary school and the last few months we've been getting on much better now. It's a phase I think

Young children don’t like it if you try too hard.

True!